TRANSITIONS and ABSENCES
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Posted:May 29, 2008 8:37 am
Last Updated:Sep 21, 2008 1:43 am 6072 Views
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NOTICE ( 05/29/08 ):
MY LIFE IS PRESENTLY IN A GREAT DEAL OF TRANSITION. I WILL SOON BE DOWNGRADING MY MEMBERSHIP TO AN UNPAID STATUS. HOWEVER, I MAINTAIN AN IDENTICAL PROFILE AND BLOG AT BIGCHURCH . COM. I AM LISTED UNDER THE PROFILE MONIKER OF MOONCHASER1963. SHOULD ONE WISH TO CORRESPOND WITH ME, THIS IS THE PLACE. I BEG YOUR PATIENCE. I WILL BE AN INFREQUENT VISITER TO THE INTERNET DUE TO MY WORK AND EVENTS IN MY LIFE. THIS MAY CHANGE WHEN I CAN AQUIRE A LAP TOP PC ONE DAY.
I WANT TO THANK MY FRIENDS AND MEMBERS OF FFF.COM FOR A WONDERFUL EXPERIENCE ON FFF. I WISH EVERYONE AN EVEN GREATER EXPERIENCE. BE SAFE! THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME AND CONSIDERATION!
GOD BLESS !!! DAVE,  [/SIZE][/B]
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A Man's Long Hair, It's Grown on Me.
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Posted:May 28, 2008 11:55 am
Last Updated:Jun 20, 2008 1:47 am 6132 Views
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I came to have Long hair almost by accident.
With my years in sports and then the military, I had always maintained a short hair cut. When I bought my own truck during the recession of '01, I found it very difficult to get a haircut. Finally, I cut off my Grizzly Adams beard. It was July, Hot and Humid in Pennsylvania, it was Itchy and scratchy, and I needed a change.
About 3 Months, later, I absolutely needed a haircut. For 6 weeks I tried to get a haircut. However, I was running 4000 miles a week. Every time I went to the Barber shop at a Truck Stop,I ran into a problem: "Closed", "Back in 30 minutes", or 7 people in line waiting their turn. I couldn't afford the time and energy of waiting that long.
Finally, I was looking pretty scraggly by this time and Got fed up. I said to myself "To Heck with it, I guess it's time for me to discover what its like to have long hair." "Besides, It'll save me some money." I went and bought my first hair ribbon and started a "baby" ponytail. I didn't do a thing to it for three years.
My Hair is naturally thick and semi-curly. My Tail now hangs down my back below my armpits.
I only wash it about every 3-4 days. Otherwise, it seems to dry out. I do two washes with cheap shampoo. I use a cheap conditioner and only partially rinse it out. No Hair Dryers. I use a long Ouchless Ribbon with 3 turns in it, then put it on and get 3 more turns. I have two brushes, One long bristle to brush in the curls and out with the snags; and One short fine to brush down my scalp.
For Frizzy days, I use a little dab of Gel over my scalp. About every 2-3 months I trim off an inch or two for the purpose of fending off split ends. Every now and then I take some scizzors to trim my temples. I still have to have a friend or Barber to cut my Mane off my neck. If I'm going somewhere special, out with folks, church, etc. I have a wonderful product that a stylist gave me that is oil which adds a nice sheen, sparkle, and deepness to my hair. It makes the Curls stand out and hold together.
I do get compliments. Not often though, A man's long hair isn't all that uncommon these days. I do find it interesting how many people will unabashedly announce they do not like long Hair on a man. It is often a generational thing. I do think it is a turn on for some and definitely a turn off for others.
The important thing for me is that with a ribbon, I can keep it a short profile from the front like my military style cuts. My long hair is not necessarily my first impression. I try to keep it clean and maintained. I do not go in public without my ribbon. I find long hair around my face distracting. I also wear a cowboy hat in Public.
Observation: Always amazes me how much hair is dispensed out of the shower and my brush after a shower.
My Least Favorite Time: Drying My Hair with a towel, Never Get it all done.
My favorite time with my hair: After my shower, and the hair is almost completely dry. That is when my hair is Long, Soft, Curly, and Smelling Good. This is the Good time.
My Fun Time with Hair: I do enjoy complimenting Ladies with beautiful hair, young and old.
Best Compliments ever received:
"I wish I had hair like yours!"
"May I touch your hair?"
"Your hair is Beautiful, I love it, it just seems unfair that a guy should have it after all the money I have spent on mine, and mine doesn't come close to yours ! It's just not Fair!"
Well those are the Chronicles of this man's Hair.
Yes, It has kinda grown on me!
Dave,
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All I need to know about life I learned from my dog!
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Posted:Aug 14, 2007 3:08 am
Last Updated:Jun 20, 2008 1:48 am 6730 Views
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All I need to know about life I learned from my Dog!
* If you stare at someone long enough, eventually you'll get what you want.
* If it's not wet and sloppy, it's not a real kiss.
* Be aware of when to hold your tongue and when to use it.
* Leave room in your schedule for a good nap.
* Don't go out without I.D.
* Always give people a friendly greeting - a cold nose in the crotch is effective.
* When you do something wrong, always take responsibility (as soon as you're dragged out from under the bed).
* Be direct with people; let them know exactly how you feel by piddling on their shoes.
* When you go out into the world, remember: always take time out to smell the roses, and trees, grass, rocks, and fire hydrants.
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Sobering Thoughts of Internet Love
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Posted:Jul 9, 2007 7:09 pm
Last Updated:Jun 20, 2008 1:49 am 6836 Views
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COMMENTS WELCOME
GENTLEMAN AND LADIES
BEWARE! ATTENTION! WARNING! BE CAREFUL!
My divorce was finalized in May. Friends asked me how I felt about it. Was I happy? Was I glad it was over? Was I glad to have my freedom back? My answer was none of the above. It was an acknowledgment that it will take time for the dust to settle. But, as to my feelings, I could only answer that I was SAD.
I was saddened by the lost hopes and dreams. Saddened by the wasted Energy, Time, Opportunities, and Expense. I was saddened by the loss of naivety and happiness. I was saddened by the unnecessary hurts and harms. All for what?
I did not enter into marriage after 25 years of bachelorhood to find myself 15 months later back where I started. I did not picture the brokenness, anger, harsh words, pain, and heartache that would arise for no evident reason. Why? I must ask. I do not have the answers yet, I may never arrive at them.
The POINT Dave! You may ask. Well, My wife and I met on the internet on a sight much like this one. We courted for 20 months. We supposedly agreed on our faith, our values, our plans, and dreams. Our wedding was perfect and everything we, our family, and friends hoped it would be. Then came the honeymoon.
Things started to unravel at the get go. It seems there were a lot of unexpressed expectations, a lack of agreement on the courtship discussions. Lies! Discontent! Independent Behavior!
Unhappiness welled up its head. Resentment and Anger reared up and struck. The slide and spiral had begun. Nothing could seem to stem the tide! No thing! No Assurance! No Words! No loving gesture! NOTHING could slow the verbal torrent! Depression was hanging over our heads It was inevitable that love would wane. Self-protection and guarded hearts would prevail. Prayers felt empty. Communication, an exercise in futility.
It might be good to clarify here. All these unhealthy emotions and destructive behaviors started and emenated from my wife. As you can imagine it was most confusing and discouraging for a new and first time husband.
What went wrong? My conscience is clear, but my heart is troubled seeking the answers. My mind is perplexed by the incongruity of having everything going for us; yet to stand at the end of the day - empty handed.
Before we married, I failed to take into account the "little" inconsistencies and "little" incongruities of her story. I discounted the "little" deceptions. I forgave the insecurities and petty jealousies. I overlooked the "Little" mismatches of character and personality. These little things came to haunt us. My wishful thinking and optimism, must have blinded me to the reality looming over us. I didn't connect the right dots. I didn't see it coming.
I hope to be wiser in the future. I wish her no ill will. I guard against retaining anger and resentment of my own. I must make choices to be vulnerable again. I am seeking out a new and brighter future. My eyes will just be more open and my heart less bold.
SECOND Warning:
I just found out some sad news at church yesterday. I couple I knew are separated and divorcing. He has been asked to leave the church. Evidently, the husband had been horribly abusing his wife. They had not been married very long. She ended up in a woman's shelter and is now staying with a family in the church. She is struggling to put her life back together. She has much healing of spirit and mind to go through. She is now surrounded by people who love and care for her. She is getting counseling and the Lord is providing and ministering to her. She's a sweetheart.
The problem: This couple met on the internet and she too is a Filipino Lady !!
This is serious business. This hurts far more than two people. It hurts all the family and friends, even a church. Be Careful! Try to exercise good judgment, discernment, and wisdom in your searches for love. Try to read the pages within the cover. I am hoping in writing and sharing in this post, that someone will be equipped to avoid the same mistakes and problems.
Best wishes and God's blessings be with you in your search for "LIFE LONG LOVE!"
Dave
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The Road Not Taken
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Posted:Jul 9, 2007 5:43 pm
Last Updated:Jun 20, 2008 1:50 am 6271 Views
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THE ROAD NOT TAKEN
Two Roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had really worn them about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I --
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Robert Frost, 1963
I would appreciate hearing from you, the reader how this poem touched you, or meant something to you in the past. Is this a favorite of yours as well?
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THE CADET PRAYER
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Posted:Jul 9, 2007 5:05 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2007 1:22 am 6058 Views
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THE CADET PRAYER
O GOD, OUR Father, Thou Searcher of Men's hearts, help us to draw near to Thee in sincerity and truth. May our religion be filled with gladness and may our worship of Thee be natural.
Strengthen and increase our admiration for honest dealing and clean thinking, and suffer not our hatred of hypocrisy and pretence ever to diminish. Encourage us in our endeavor to live above the common level of life.
Make us choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong, and never to be content with a half truth when the whole can be won. Endow us with the courage that is born of loyalty to all that is noble and worthy, that scorns to compromise with vice and injustice and knows no fear when truth and right are in jeopardy.
Guard us against flippancy and irreverence in the sacred things of life. Grant us new ties of friendship and new opportunities of service. Kindle our hearts in fellowship with those of a cheerful countenance, and soften our hearts with sympathy for those who sorrow and suffer.
Help us to maintain the honor of the Corps untarnished and unsullied and to show forth in our lives the ideals of West Point in doing our duty to Thee and to our Country. All of which we ask in the name of the Great Friend and Master of men - Amen
United States Military Academy
West Point, NY, USA
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DELICADEZA: A Beautiful Word, A Beautiful Thing
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Posted:Jun 28, 2007 2:39 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2007 2:54 am 6787 Views
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Greetings! I recently came across this word in a discussion group. Members were attempting to articulate its meaning. FFF member, ladytop, described DELICADEZA as a spanish word; meaning: Daintiness.
I was intrigued. I came to understand that this is a character trait that is greatly valued in Philipine society. It would appear to be a societal norm holding differences to what in America we might call, being a Gentleman, or being Ladylike, or a Lady.
Delicadeza, would seem to hold a very influentual position within Philipine culture. I am understanding that it has a very deep and PROFOUND meaning to Filipinos.
I would like to gain a better understanding of this character trait of Philipine culture. How would I come to recognize and appreciate this quality in the life of, relationship with, and marriage to a Pinay Lady? I am most interested in hearing more on the following subjects:
VALUES: Honor, Respect, Integrity, Community, Love, Communication, Family, Friendship, Faith, Work Ethics, Cleanliness, Self-Discipline, Morality, Sexuality, Feminity, Masculinity, Patriotism, Intimacy, Privacy, Tradition, Home, SIMPLICITY, Materialism, Individuality, Emotional expression, Stewardship, etc.
DAILY LIFE: Outlook on Life, Family Interaction, Family and Personal Friendships, Dealing with Elders, Dealing with , Dealing with In-Laws, Community Service and Duty, Religion and Practice, Interpersonal Communication, Work, Education, Homemaking, Fashion and Dress, World View, Arguments, Conflict Resolution, Sexual intimacy, Dealings between Genders, Dealings with same Genders, Social consequence, Social standing, Entertaining (host/guest), Demonstrations of Delicadeza towards a husband (in/outside home), Finances and Shopping, How does concept hold to Men, Emotinal health, Being centered, etc.
I would most welcome comments on these various subjects listed above under "VALUES" and "DAILY LIFE." I have tried to brain storm to provide ideas to inspire and prompt you the reader. Would you be specific in what you're addressing
I am trying to prompt a discussion here. Thanks.
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Big Big Little Hearts VS. Selfish Superficiality
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Posted:May 30, 2007 12:53 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2007 2:54 am 7008 Views
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I do not want to cast a broad net over American women. There exceptions in all cases. Hey, There are millions of wonderful women in America. The catch is: they are already taken!
The rest - well, You see where I am spending my time and energy.
An observation or generalization is that eligible women in America are pretty picky. It almost sounds adolescent. He's got to be slimmer, taller, richer, non-drinker, non-smoker, and have to raise my . It is an attitude that comes across as selfish and superficial.
I am seeing something very different from my contacts with the profiles of the ladies on FFF.
"I'm not into looks, looks are not important to me, I am not materialistic, money is not important, Age is not important, I'm just looking for an honest, Big hearted, loving, God-fearing man, hard working man, accepts me for who I am. etc. etc." Contacts to me, even seem to overlook my weight and cigarettes - and they do not smoke !!!
This comes across as VERY Accepting, Very Tolerant, Very Generous, Very Big Hearted, Hey lets call it what it is: Loving!!
Maybe some readers would enlighten me about this difference and what equips Pinay Ladies to be so gracious and giving in this way . I am impressed by the level of acceptance, contentment, and tolereance. Where does this come from? Is it real? Does it break down in real life? I'm very curious and want to understand this cultural capacity. Outsider, looking in - it appears to be a real BLESSING!
Thank you for your time and consideration.
May God Bless and Keep You and yours! Dave
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or NO , THAT is the question
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Posted:May 30, 2007 12:22 pm
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2007 2:52 am 6377 Views
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I have just gone through life understanding that any woman who has a heart, is well-adjusted, healthy, and in her 20s and 30s would naturally want to have of her own.
I have come across an interesting observation that has me a bit perplexed. Maybe the matter has to do with culture or economics. However, I am mystified by the amazingly large percentage of childless women, who, in their 20s and 30s; who have responded to the profile question "WANT " with the variety answers following:
No
Maybe
Happy with what I have
I guess one would have to allow for a women to have doubts, when without a husband. One would also need to allow a woman to change her mind at a later date.
My question is why do such a large number of women, of bearing age, state that they do not want ? Is this truly a honest answer to this question? Do this many women in the Phillipines really not want motherhood?
Is this a decision of conviction or indecision?
Assuming mothers are happy with their choices. It begs the question: Why is this the case, that so many of these fine attractive, intelligent PINAY LADIES 'choose' to forgo having and motherhood?
Thanks for your time and consideration! Dave
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PINAYS IN AMERICA??? "HAPPINESS," or Homesickness, Intolerable Suffering, and Tortuous Adventure
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Posted:May 30, 2007 9:53 am
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2007 2:53 am 6246 Views
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This question is probably aimed at Pinay Ladies who have traveled overseas. Anyone who has married a foriegner, especially an American.
In my travels I have had the opportunity to observe cultures in four continents. Wide disparities in geography, religious practice economic realities, social communities, and political institutions.
However, I was ever conscious that I was the visitor, I was the one who would go back to home. As best as I tried to acclamate and befriend my new home. Endeavored as I might to adopt my new home and foriegn land; to be a good expatriot. The fact was I knew I would one day return home.
Ladies,
MY QUESTIONs: What have been the hardships of moving to America? How did you deal with absence from loved ones? How did you deal with your homesickness? How did you deal with loneliness, culture shock, isolation, different Geography and weather. How bad was the difference between America on TV and America under your feet. How did you cope. What were or are the hardest things for you to deal with.
Important!!! What inside your being equipped you with the courage, strength, and endurance to face such a dramatic change in your life?
How was your husband, his family, and his Friends of assistance and support to you?
Was America all you had hoped it would be?
I would be honored by your responses. Dave
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