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''NEED AND WANTS''

If you look at your own thinking, you will find that a good proportion of it is concerned with meeting a need of some kind or another- the needs for security, approval, love, companionship, status, respect, control, stimulus, comfort, etc...

For many of us, such thinking is going on nearly all the time. Sometimes, it may just be in the background, but it is there, occupying our mental resources. Most of it is a complete waste of time and energy. Looking more closely, you will find that many of these thoughts concern imagined need-things we imagine we need in order to be happy. We imagine we need someone to regard us in a good light, or we need some new clothes, or we need to eat some gourmet food. These are not true needs; they are "wants" or desires, or in some cases simply preferences...But still occupy our thoughts...

When we believe we need such things or situations in order to be happy, we become fixated upon getting them, and this leads to no end of thinking about how to get the world to be the way we believe it ought to be.

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"The Roots of Discontent''
Posted:Oct 27, 2008 5:37 am
Last Updated:Nov 3, 2008 5:38 am
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This, as so many spiritual teachers have pointed out, is the root of our much of our suffering...By telling ourselves that things need to be different, we create a sense of discontent, a disease...This is a sad joke about human beings. We all want to find greater contentment, but many of us are so busy worrying about whether or not we will be content sometime in the future, we never allow ourselves to be at ease in the present. Instead our minds become preoccupied with planning and scheming, worry and anxiety, hope and fantasies, and when things don't turn out the way we think they should, we easily fall into anger, grievance, judgment, or depression....

When we do manage to get whatever it is we think we want, we may indeed feel better. But we feel better, not because that particular thing has made us feel better, but because we have, for the moment...stop creating a sense of discontent. We are no longer disturbing ourselves. But before too long we find something else that is missing, and again fall into discontent. And again start thinking about what we might do to make things the way we want
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