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Cheating

I am like a light switch, takes but a second to turn me off.
tell me you cheated on me, and everythings different, all respect, all love, all care... all that dies away in a second, like you just walked up behind each one and shot them in the head.
they are dead and gone the moment you tell me.
whats left is a cold and calculating "well, I guess it's time you take your stuff and get out, I see alot of this stuff here is mine, but honestly I don't want it, so you can have it all. infact I'll leave and you can keep all of it, just don't bother me again with anything"
if I was married and my husband cheated on me, I'd just give him everything.
I don't care one bit about things.
I'd just wanna get as far away from him as possible.
I have no forgiveness when someone cheats, theres no excuse good enough, theres no reason you can justify it. drunk or not, sad or not, lonely... I don't care.
if it came to the point where you didnt even try to resolve the issue with me, and you just let it fester inside you long enough to have a excuse to cheat on me, too bad, see ya.
if you just plain old cheated on me, cause you can, well lucky me, it makes getting rid of you 20 times easier.

to me, theres just no reason to bother taking someone back once they been messing around behind your back.

they're gone from my life, the second they tell me.
doesn't matter how much I love them, or if I was with them 25 years.
it's over.

I had a friend ask me how I can just shut down and get someone out of my life, so quickly and coldly and never look back.
my answer was... "ever hear those stories about guys getting pinned under a rock, and they starve for days, then just kinda realize what they had to do to live, so they cut off their leg or something, so they could live?"
to me, relationships are like that.
sometimes, no matter how much something means to you, if it's bad for you, or hurting you, you just have to get rid of it, and move on, so you live.

An Open Letter to my Future Husband
Posted:Jul 24, 2006 9:01 pm
Last Updated:Jul 22, 2008 4:28 pm
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Even though I don't know exactly who you'll be yet, I think of you often. I wonder how you're living your life now. It matters to me, you know, because how you live your life now determines the kind of man you're becoming...and the kind of man I'll spend the rest of my life with.
Apparently, for some bizarre reason, manhood doesn't come automatically for males. Some guys seem to spend their entire lives trying to "prove their manhood" - by hunting, playing sports, driving fast...and, unfortunately, by having sex. It seems rather strange to us women that guys think having sex proves you're a man. To us, it just proves that you've reached puberty. And we don't really consider that, in itself, to be any great accomplishment. Becoming a man is a much more complicated process.

The funny thing is, even in this day in age, most guys want to marry a girl who respects her sexuality. A guy doesn't like the idea of his future wife in the back-seat with someone else, or of her being the subject of a sexual conquest story in the locker room. They'll brag about girls like that, but they won't marry them. They want to marry a girl, whether she's never "done it" or done it and regretted it, who recognizes that sex speaks the language of forever, committed love...someone like me.

But why would I want to marry someone like that...someone who wants to marry a virgin, but spends his dating years robbing other girls of their virginity so that he can prove his manhood? He's not a "real man" in my eyes - he's a selfish, immature boy driven by insecurity, not love. And I'm not interested.

I want more from you. I want you to respect your sexuality as much as I respect mine. I want you to be a real, confident man, not a wimp who has to use women to feed his insecurity. A guy like that couldn't use all of those women, and then suddenly love me. He may be "good" in bed, but he's no good at loving.

I want you to learn to really love. Learning to love is learning to put the other first. A guy who messes around outside of marriage isn't putting the good of the other first. He's using a girl...speaking the "body language" of permanent commitment when the relationship isn't permanent. He's putting the girl at risk of pregnancy. And he's putting himself at risk for some nasty diseases...diseases he can then later give his wife. That's not making love. A real man loves women - all women - and wants what's best for them. And he doesn't let his desires control his actions. He controls his desires instead.

I want you to develop self-control. That's important to me. I don't want to marry a man who can't control himself. Men like that make lousy husbands. A guy who isn't used to saying "no" to sex isn't going to be any better at 40 than he was at 18. I've seen women who worry every time their husbands hire an attractive secretary. I don't want that. What kind of marriage could I have with someone I couldn't even trust on a business trip?

In the short run, I'm sure there aren't too many rewards for a guy living this way. Society tells you that you're missing out on your "sexual peak." Your silence during locker room bragging sessions can seem deafening. You may have even heard from the girls you date that something must be "wrong" with you because you won't take them to bed. Deep down, you must know that having sex won't prove you're a man. It's just irritating to no one else seems to know it, isn't it?

But someone else does know it. I know it. And in the end, I'm the only someone who matters.

And no, I'm not as narrow-minded as those guys who say they'll only marry a virgin. Society isn't too supportive of virginity, especially male virginity. I can forgive mistakes in your past. But I'm interested in your future, starting now. When I meet you, I want you to be a man who has made a conscious decision to wait...out of love for our future family and commitment to marriage. And I want you to be a real man, who's developed the control, maturity and unselfishness that waiting brings. They may not be popular traits in the locker room, but they're popular with me. They'll make you a better husband, and a better father. To me, that's sexy.

I've abstained from sex all these years, and it hasn't been for the lack of offers. I've had plenty of opportunities, and saying "no" hasn't always been easy. I'm sure it's not always easy for you, either. But it will make our marriage so much stronger. Sex will be our gift to each other, our exclusive "language." It'll belong to us, not "us and everyone else we ever dated."

Thanks for waiting for me, I promise you won't regret it.
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Single Woman's Prayer
Posted:Jul 19, 2006 9:24 pm
Last Updated:Jul 22, 2008 2:14 pm
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Now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray for a man who's not a creep.

One who's handsome, smart and strong,
Who's not afraid to admit when he is wrong.

One who thinks before he speaks.
When he promises to call, he doesn't wait six weeks.

I pray that he is gainfully employed,
Won't lose his cool when he's annoyed.

Pulls out my chair and opens my door,
Massages my back and begs to do more.

Oh send me a man who will make love to my mind.
Know what to say when I ask "How fat is my behind?"

One who'll make love till my body's a' itchin'
He brings ME a sandwich too, when he goes to the kitchen.

I pray that this man will love me to no end,
And never compare me to my best friend.

Thank you in advance and now I'll just wait,
For I know you will send him before it's too late.

Amen
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EDMOND......
Posted:May 6, 2006 12:20 am
Last Updated:Jan 1, 2007 2:24 pm
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[SIZE 1]God saw you getting tired,

When a cure was not to be,

So He wrapped his arms around you,

And whispered, "Come to Me",

You didn't deserve what you went through.

So He gave you rest,

God's garden must be beautiful,

He only picks, the best.

And when I saw you sleeping,

So peaceful and free from pain,

I could not wish you back

To suffer that again.....[/
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Cheating....
Posted:Apr 25, 2006 4:47 pm
Last Updated:Jul 22, 2008 2:15 pm
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I am like a light switch, takes but a second to turn me off.
tell me you cheated on me, and everythings different, all respect, all love, all care... all that dies away in a second, like you just walked up behind each one and shot them in the head.
they are dead and gone the moment you tell me.
whats left is a cold and calculating "well, I guess it's time you take your stuff and get out, I see alot of this stuff here is mine, but honestly I don't want it, so you can have it all. infact I'll leave and you can keep all of it, just don't bother me again with anything"
if I was married and my husband cheated on me, I'd just give him everything.
I don't care one bit about things.
I'd just wanna get as far away from him as possible.
I have no forgiveness when someone cheats, theres no excuse good enough, theres no reason you can justify it. drunk or not, sad or not, lonely... I don't care.
if it came to the point where you didnt even try to resolve the issue with me, and you just let it fester inside you long enough to have an excuse to cheat on me, too bad, see ya.
if you just plain old cheated on me, cause you can, well lucky me, it makes getting rid of you 20 times easier.

to me, theres just no reason to bother taking someone back once they been messing around behind you back.

they're gone from my life, the second they tell me.
doesn't matter how much I love them, or if I was with them 25 years.
it's over.

I had a friend ask me how I can just shut down and get someone out of my life, so quickly and coldly and never look back.
my answer was... "ever hear those stories about guys getting pinned under a rock, and they starve for days, then just kinda realize what they had to do to live, so they cut off thier leg or something, so they could live?"
to me, relationships are like that.
sometimes, no matter how much something means to you, if it's bad for you, or hurting you, you just have to get rid of it, and move on, so you live.

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