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OK The Way You Are
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Mar 30, 2012 11:17 pm
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you are one mystery i will not solve
as am believing you're enough company
i'd send you more away trying to probe
so i'll stop asking and being a chatty.
i can also get used to reading one-liner
"less is bliss," but i think not always
ergo better off for you finding as bare
i'll just play along and silent in case.
you are not lost just your way of pose
i hope you get to be happy doing this ace
the're many here to find giving you glows
move slowly but give yourself a good face.
i can just keep on dropping for some hello
you won't mind as you like playing a game
it could be better doing this come and go
so remove the panic unshedding your name.
copyright "fantasiamore" 31/03/2012
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WEIRD!
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Mar 30, 2012 9:34 pm
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this is kinda weird i can't post...my posting comes out blank...this could mean am totally going on for a long holidy...i tried posting at tink's and leo's just awhile back, my postings do not contain anything at all...so, until am back to regular programming, it could mean i can only read you out guys....sorry! even if i want to comment, my comments will not show! program or systems glitch on the prowl again!... 
also, when i went visible on IM here, someone keeps paging me, guess who? she was a very insistent pager-fantasiamore!how could she do that??? 
so i guess it's time that i wish everyone to have a solemn and reflective holy week!!! 
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MISSING
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Mar 28, 2012 6:41 am
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why do i feel a certain glum
nothing for me to even be numb
past days i gained many friends
could this be showing some trends
sometimes my emotional bio is high
you feel yours the same then sigh
it's this bad hair day i can sense
albeit it's not even making me tense
she's gone feeling unhappy she said
won't blame her as I also feel staid
it just gives me some feel of jitters
four less one leaves three critters
it's a faraway zigzag what's there
some green pines to smell wherever
six to sum up when all's gathered
where's one who seemed unaccounted
copyright "fantasiamore" 28/03/2012
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I AM LOST***
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Mar 27, 2012 4:05 am
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All in slumber's rest
Wakeful eyes in chain
A restless mind spluttering
Many languid moments
Time shut without grace
This weary soul searching
In illusion's bounty
Nil to prove in worth
The truth is flickering
Speak of sentiments
All wasted in grandstanding
Nourishment is lurking
Wings have broken loose
An open field beckons
Find me fluttering.......
copyright "fantasiamore" 31/07/08
***am dedicating this verse to the handle that has the same title as the verse here..
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DEALING WITH VERBAL ABUSE
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Mar 27, 2012 1:25 am
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We may have been this victim many times of verbal abuse without even knowing it. Often, we shrug our shoulders when friends, family or even love relations call us names in comic gestures. The use of terms, commonly translated as emphatic expressions could almost equate to slandering a character. Yet we accept it as non-malicious. Although it defiles one's personality, it would not really matter when casually said. The words "p**ang-*n*-mo," we hear being spoken almost everyday. Yet, we don't consider it as this verbal abuse, trespassing one's morality, because when translated it could mean, "your mom is a whore." Same thing when you use "f**k you." This has become a classic expression by so many, that it can only be considered a verbal abuse, if in anger, it is used as a curse in a verbal tussle with someone. Actually, the use of these terms can be a good gauge, as to one's breeding and sense of finesse. In fact, it is often used as part of street language, most especially by those living in the slum areas or in neighborhoods, where decency and good morality could be deemed absent.
In forums such as what we have here, the use of verbal abuse is closely watched. This is one reason why our postings are always being checked and guarded for censorship. But how strongly can it be really ranked and rated as this verbal abuse, when someone can easily point to you to say, "you are a such a pig!", at anytime, in a posting or that a statement here goes saying, "women in the Philippines can be said to be easily hooking up with men, mostly foreigners when they go to malls?"
Verbal abuse can easily be as painful as emotional, but likely more than physical abuse. With physical abuse, once bruises and contusions have subsided and healed, the marks or scars are totally erased. But with verbal and emotional abuse, the impact is likewise said to be greater and more lasting.
I read somewhere these are conditions, identifying when verbal abuse is said to be symptomatic:
- when someone hurts you real bigtime and they say you are being overly sensitive.
- when someone calls you names and puts you down.
- when someone makes you feel bad and guilty.
- when hope for you falls down.
- when someone denies you of a reality.
- when someone is constantly criticizing you.
- when someone explodes at you in anger.
- when someone threatens you.
- when someone constantly orders you around.
- when someone controls you life.
- when someone emotionally blackmails/manipulates you.
- when someone tells you you are blowing everything out of proportion.
- when someone accuses you of something you didn't do.
- when someone is extremely jealous.
If you will consider all the circumstances above, one would always be subjected to verbal abuse, right? So that a greater quarrel or this spat with a relation can easily bring in verbal abuse, the way I could be understanding it. The moment you are accused of philandering (even without any evidence), with the altercations that follow suit, plus this airing of some jealousy, it could all become automatically an occasion of verbal abuse. This is too restricting in my opinion, but psychologists must have drawn these lines, to justify what verbal abuse is all about. It is also therefore right, to break up with a relations once you feel and find he is subjecting you to verbal abuses, with all the circumstances given above. Where then can you draw the line being happy and satisfied, steer clear of verbal abuse, when some circumstances surrounding a relationship could always be said as constituting verbal abuse?
Your views on the matter, thanks!
27/03/2012
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ARROGANCE AND PRIDE
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Mar 23, 2012 7:44 pm
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I guess we all have been guilty of these two traits, one time or another. But can one really avoid having to practise it, when one feels s/he can be as fully blessed and well endowed? I know one doesn't have to flaunt what good attributes one has, not unless it is required; say when one is being interviewed for work. You can flaunt all you can, you need to sell yourself, to get accepted. Or that you can be joining a competition, where the attributes are most likely the requirements to win. But in this life we have, is it normal to be having the traits and manifesting it each time you talk or do something? Catholics have been taught it is one of the seven capital sins.
I'd like to say it can just get circumstantial, maybe. What am trying to say is, do it when you could be threatened, when you could be belittled or when you can be fishing out something else for a good purpose, like trying to assess, how the other person can be, but never rate yourself based on that comparison. I find it rather negative appraisal. One shouldn't be always doing it or finding all circumstances as an opportunity. And to be doing this on an everyday note, I would find that beyond what is tolerable.
Again, I ask can one really veer away from being arrogant and proud, if one has developed it in himself and has really become a part of his/her personality. Can you expect one to be toning down ever?
You tell me!
**Note: I didn't do this blog to hit on anyone. So please, am not trying to interpose a bad inference and meaning to it. It was just a simple thought to ponder on. Probably, we can discuss this as a part of human behavior. Bear with it, thanks!
24/03/2012
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SHHHH....SURPRISE!
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Mar 22, 2012 6:27 pm
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This week I got to chatting back an old friend who I met way back 2006 and came to meet me personally in Singapore November of that same year. I was off on a tourist holiday, in two other Asian countries, Malaysia and Thailand, at that time.
We started off as proposed business partners, dealing the influx of drugs (not banned) inside the Philippines, but with the permit and authority of FDA, Philippines. He was appointing me as his sole distributor in this country as he was exclusively distibuting to India and wanted to penetrate the market here. Since FDA Philippines was giving him and his former contacts here a tough time getting the permit, he asked if I could help with his dilemma. I tried to assist but unfortunately, the redtapes of FDA were truly exacting that I needed to suggest he should abandon the idea. So from there, we started to become close friends.
When I met him in Singapore, I thought he and I would hit it off, but I was the one who chickened out. Not that I found the fellow disappointing, on the contrary he is exactly what I thought and pictured him to be. Although he is a pure-bred Singaporean, he is as westernized in upbringing and culture, not like the steel warts or Singaporean locals.
He obtained his education in USA. He owns an archictectural firm and is a chairperson for several government committees in Singapore on an termed basis. He is a divorcee, without a child and attended to his mother, in addition to his many other responsibilities.
I was thinking he would not really be having his time to have a good relationship with me, if I gave us a chance.
When I met him it was the first and last we saw each other personally, but we were in touch by calls and texts, once in awhile when I was in Singapore.
This week I chanced upon him at IM here. He changed his handle so I had to ask if he was the same John I used to talk with and met sometime ago. He affirmed and so we decided to move and chat again at wayhem. He had a hard time refreshing our moments together way back then, so I had to refresh him everything about me. He found some details short from his memory, but he apologized since he said we met a long time ago, which was really a span of 6 years from thence, so I couldn't really blame him. I even mentioned how he asked me for a kiss, the first time we met and how touchy a person he was that I felt so embarrassed, when he took me strolling at the beachside park somewhere near Changi Airport, which happens to be a public recreation area. Surprised that he forgot all these things for a fact, but apologized for his behavior then. He admitted he is this person fond of PDA, though.
We went back to chatting the way we did before, that is, most of his mornings in the office dedicated to talking with me, in between works and business calls that he would have. He then proposed that we get back together again, see if this time it will work for both of us.
He mentioned his mother died already last year. He further added he had slowed down and would be cutting off his committee involvements by the end of the year, to give himself time to enjoy the "other side" of his life. Since he had already gotten close to me and I will be visiting Singapore this May, after our Baguio EB (am not attached anymore also) I went with his idea that we try again. So now I have this rendezvous with him in Singapore come May.
Now, this is the most surprising part. Yesterday I asked him to send me his picture. He obliged and to my shock, he was a different guy from the person I met previously. He had hair!
The other fellow was bald! He was wearing eyeglasses! the other fellow used contact lens! He was handsome! The other fellow was not but had a good appeal! He looked older! The other fellow was baby face! He was fair-skinned the other fellow was somewhat dark!
I was so embarrassed having to tell him all the information of my past with the other fellow, that I mistook as him. Same thing with him, since he thought I was someone very familiar with him as well. He had this attachment and connection with me so much, that he felt it so nice. He found chatting without holds barred and yet it was odd, he couldn't exactly pinpoint why he could be forgetting what used to be with us. Geesh! that was some surprise indeed.
So then I asked his personal details, if his name was really John, it was indeed John but he had a different surname. Then I reconfirmed if he also took care of his mother, living with her in their house; that he was also this divorcee and without a child; involved with several government committees in Singapore; got educated in USA and had this architectural office to manage. All of the info were also his personal details, except for one, that he was not an architect, but a business management consultant. He was assigned for three years here in the Philippines working at Bank of America.
Both have very friendly and smiling pictures! Both are gregarious the way they chat and very passionate and romantic! They are both funny guys, not a moment dull when you chat with each of them! Both chatted with me on the same hours everyday! So how was I to know, that am dealing with two different fellows, if not for the picture that I saw?!
What happened next was something like history repeating itself, except that this time there seems to be a good chance that we could be not only complementing each other but as compatible, too. Am asking now was this fated?
End of story!
23/03/2012
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The BROKEN VOW
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Mar 21, 2012 8:56 pm
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He said "LOVE is YOU....nothing else matters."
She replied, "Everything that I know of LOVE is because of YOU."
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Are You A Chameleon?
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Mar 21, 2012 3:28 am
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A chameleon is a versatile and intelligent animal, with its color-changing ability. A lizard that adapts itself to the environment. It is not automatically changing its colors really but usually matches itself with the environment depending on its mood and gets ambient with its surroundings.
I'd say a person like a chameleon blends with its surroundings because of his instinct and sense of security. He needs to protect himself against the dangers posing around him. Hence, wherever he goes he needs to camouflage and wear a shroud to cover him up against any peril that he finds posing to his well-being. A good reason then, to find persons pretending and putting up a front because they find that a good protection for themselves.
The chameleon has no sense of direction. It will go anywhere it gets attracted to stay in a place. Find anywhere its temporary home because the place is conducive and comfortable. When something else disturbs its sense of security, it moves on and finds itself another comfy habitat. Hence, the chameleon is this vagabond, constantly seeking and restless, until it simply tires itself from moving on because it is physically incapable anymore.
In the same manner, when a person becomes like this chameleon, he finds no sense of direction for himself. He is constantly moving from one habitat to another believing he has changed. He finds no permanency at all because he continually finds he is threatened. So in a way, when a man goes from one nest to another, philandering, he is this chameleon. He feels he doesn't get enough protection and secuity, in that habitat he chose to stay for awhile. He feels he needs to keep on moving because he is changing. He can't get permanent, which to me could only equate to his own personal motives and desires, mostly. I can't really blame that attitude, it is healthy for the person. But when motives get to trespass other individuals, I don't find that advantageous anymore. He lives to exist but at the expense of another person.
Your reactions, please. Thanks!
21/03/2012
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What is Now
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Mar 19, 2012 5:15 pm
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it's been weeks now having to run through
again with all the verses that i got created
there is the thought that i'd compile it all
somehow i saw it was more my journal of you.
this morning there's a song i saw and played
the lyrics reminded the time we had first met
i said i would never, never get affected again
still tears welled my feelings remained staid.
i wish i was younger that i could turn back time
go all over anew have these moments feeling good
i could only dream them now mostly just reminding
the treasures i've had for a love that got sublime.
the wheel of life turns what's today as yesterday
but it goes in a circle this cycle that comes back
if what comes around is the same i'd keep my smile
am alive finding out what used to be was not a play.
i don't want to feel betrayed for those many years
liked what you said don't stop let the feelings flow
yet i'd find reasons why i can feel low and not high
i am reading the past these same truths were my fears.
am trudging heavily with a burden that's not meant
often in thoughts about those years what am i searching
being quiescent does not stop me as i am still filled
many questions from this restless soul seem my torment.
this trap where am in are these shackles that bind me
i know it's not a ploy nor this plan i should muster
freedom comes unexpectedly in due time that am healed
still hoping for answers even in my deathbed as a plea.
copyright "fantasiamore" 20/03/2012
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