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“The reason people find it so hard to be happy is that they always see the past better than it was, the present worse than it is, and the future less resolved than it will be”
“Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail.”
“Whenever you make a mistake or get knocked down by life, don't look back at it too long. Mistakes are life's way of teaching you. Your capacity for occasional blunders is inseparable from your capacity to reach your goals. No one wins them all, and your failures, when they happen, are just part of your growth. Shake off your blunders. How will you know your limits without an occasional failure? Never quit. Your turn will come.”
“Well, it seems to me that the best relationships - the ones that last - are frequently the ones that are rooted in friendship. You know, one day you look at the person and you see something more than you did the night before. Like a switch has been flicked somewhere. And the person who was just a friend is... suddenly the only person you can ever imagine yourself with”
quotes by: O.Mandino,M.Pagna,& G.Anderson
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Cold War...
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Oct 10, 2011 4:20 am
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It's almost Christmas time,  and I'd like to think that I don't have enemies, be it real or assumed ones. For my personality is such that if something bothers me, I spit it out and get it off my chest. However, at times, when it is only assumed, then, I can only grope in the dark  What I'm saying is that, I do notice that a member (or even more) here is not on "speaking" terms with me ( not that it makes a difference in my simple life, but I am curious anyway  ) for about, say, more than 6 months? (sorry, I must have lost count) From what I remember, we used to exchange banters from time to time in the past, and I am also keen on remembering that it was I who last posted in her blog. Have I offended nor slighted her with my own sharp tongue? I don't think so!  ( I find no reasons to do that, anyway) or is it just a plain lack of interest to interact with me in my blogs? ( I can take that reason anytime versus a personal grudge )..Well, whatever the reason is, I just want everyone here to know that I want peace and harmony in my life, CHRISTMAS or not, but I cannot point/poke a knife nor a gun on someone's head just to "speak" to me. Lastly, blogging is just one of my hobbies, and it doesn't really matter if I have one or a hundred viewers/commentators. I normally just want to share some things or events that are important in my life. Friendship is just a bonus...After all, to each his/her own...Have a great week, and MERRY CHRISTMAS to you ALL!
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Just Let Go!... Enough Is Enough.......
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Oct 6, 2011 5:01 am
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"Sometimes, Letting go is very hard, but it is easier than holding on to someone or something that isn't there."
Huh? this topic has been discussed so many times, but as we all know, not all of us learn from our mistakes. We just love to get "hurt", whether self-inflicted or as an aftermath of a relationship gone bad or just faded away. It doesn't have to be about romance all the time. It could be just plain friendship. Have you ever experienced having friends who appear and disappear as they please? Those who'd call you "only" when they need something from you, or if they have problems? And when they are back to being "normal" again, they forget you. Honestly, I'm getting tired of these kind of people, and as I wrote on my facebook wall, I am actually narrowing my list of those so-called friends, and maybe, settle with just very few...They've been categorized before, they'll even run the risk of being just part of the history... ...And NO! I am not being mean, for most of these people had taken advantage of me and my kindness from before...So, most of them are really worth "deleting"...What the heck do I need them for?...Just like a relationship with men, it's hard to let go, but it's doable...and let peace forever reign in your hearts... Hallelujah!
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Building Sand Castles....
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Sep 27, 2011 6:48 pm
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I've been to South Padre Island again, with my niece, Erma, and close family friends and visitors from Corona, California this past weekend. Once again, I've experienced the joy that simple life brings when we spend quality time with the people that we so care about. And each time, I just wish those special moments will never end...And so, this time, I acted like a small kid, and built sand castles. I knew for a fact that chances are, the strong winds and the waves will destroy or blow them away. But it's the special feeling that no one ever can take away from me....the opportunity to live my life one day at a time, forget and leave my worries behind, and just ENJOY THE MOMENT...For I know, my tomorrows are not guaranteed to come, but my TODAY is here, and I'll make the most out of what it brings me. And I am very thankful to God, that even though I do not have everything I need and want in life, compared to others, I am truly blessed, because whatever I have, small or big, I am forever appreciative and grateful. Most of all, I may not have too many friends, but whoever I have right now, they are for keeps...So, you too, can build your sand castles, and CONTINUE TO COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS...I do! 
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He Lied!
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Sep 22, 2011 8:33 pm
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What would you do if on his first attempt to make a connection with you, a man already "LIED"? Not a good thing, yeah? After all, most of the time, "first impression is lasting". Well, it matters so much to me that a person is honest even in those very minute personal details. Here in cyberspace, it's a given that everyone prefers to have a good catch. But, it is also a known fact that some people are just looking for opportunities to take advantage of unsuspecting victims. Lately, been getting offers from correspondents that they'll relocate to where I am, instead of offering their own place for me to move in, " JUST IN CASE", things will work out between us....Hmmmm!   Nothing surprises me anymore...Tsk!tsk!tsk!     |
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She's Engaged!
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Sep 18, 2011 5:14 am
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She's nicknamed SUGAR, and she's called MOMMY by many members here, but she's not a "sugar mommy". She was very popular when Groups here at FFF were super busy and active. She's a blogger too. She's a very good friend, pretty, witty, and very talented. She can sing and dance the night away. Just like anyone of us, she's been through a lot in her lovelife as well. But her sweet smile finally gave her away, and captivated the heart of the man, I always refer to as Tissue Paper (since his name is Scott). Even before I logged on to FB, Leah already called me on the phone to announce the good news: " I'm Engaged!"...Well, actually, I said it before she did...I just felt she was up to something that I already anticipated, being that I've seen both of them together, spending a couple of days with them in Sacramento, San Francisco, and San Jose, CA early this year. I witnessed just how sweet and loving they were to each other, and I already knew, that they're meant for each other. I am so happy for the both of them, and I could not contain myself, and told my niece, Erma (who's staying with me right now, until it's time for her to deliver her first child here in the USA), and she said: "Auntie, you should try dating foreigners...there are still a lot of good men, their like, out there."...To which, I replied: "I'm not a big risk-taker, and probably, with a little bit more of proddings, I might"....But, I just wish that Leah and Scott will tie the knot after mid-December ('coz, by that time, I'm anticipating that Erma will be back with her newborn in Dubai, Godwilling)...I wouldm't want to miss the very special occasion for the world. I am just too happy for LEAH and SCOTT..Just so, you know...Leah, whose handle, "sugarysyrup", had already turned off her profile here at FFF, but she will always be a sister and a sweet friend to all of us...CONGRATULATIONS and BEST WISHES to LEAH!  ...Girl, you truly did the "Greatest Performance Of Your Life" ...Kudos to you, my lovely sister...We Love you! |
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Friendship Here and There....
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Sep 17, 2011 4:08 am
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Why do people sometimes expect too much from friends? They come and go, for reasons we may or might not know. Some of them promised to be with us till the end, but left anyway and get on with their own lives. They've served the purpose that was assigned to them. They've been instruments to keep us company during our loneliness, heartbreaks, mournings and weepings. They're "angels" who watched us till we're ready to face life again. We shouldn't cry that they left us. Instead, we should be very thankful that they came into our lives to make the difference. It doesn't matter if they stayed long or short. It doesn't matter if they'll come back again. What matters is that they were with us at the time we needed them most. Be glad if some of them are still with us until now. For, indeed, that is an extended blessing!
To ALL my loyal friends, here and there: "I promise to be with you, for as long as you are with me." 
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Is There Really Such A Thing As?.......(Repost) 01/11/2007
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Sep 10, 2011 4:36 am
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COME ON, LET'S FACE IT!..MOST OF US HAVE BEEN WOUNDED, MAYBE ONCE, TWICE, OR EVER MORE...AND BECAUSE OF THAT, WE TEND TO IGNORE OR PUT OFF OPPORTUNITIES TO BE IN LOVE AGAIN...WHY?... OUR EXCUSES ARE ALWAYS ONE OR TWO OR ALL OF THE FOLLOWING:
1. WE DO NOT WANT TO GET HURT AGAIN
What is the guarantee that the next one is not gonna hurt?
2. WE WILL WAIT FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT
When, exactly is the right moment? And who determines it? You? the other person? or just leave it to destiny?
3. WE WILL WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PERSON
Again, how are we going to find out if the person is just right, if we do not give that person a chance in the first place?..Just because we have loved and lost the previous object of our intense emotions (that lasted even more than 25 years) doesn't mean or guarantee that the next person is gonna last forever...uhhh?
4. WE DO NOT WANT TO EXPERIENCE THE SAME ORDEAL AGAIN...That is not fair to ourselves and to others who could be even better than whoever we had in the past.
5. OUR LOVED ONES (SPECIALLY, IF WE HAVE KIDS OR IF THE OTHER PERSON HAVE KIDS) ARE AGAINST US, BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP AGAIN..
Well, this one, we may have to do some good explanations to our loved ones...It's not easy to do this, but hey!...we can all have our piece of cake and eat it too!..Why do we always think that just because we are in a relationship, WE ARE GOING TO GET MARRIED OR GET HITCHED AGAIN?...We don't have to..Like I always tell my friends: "IF YOU ARE IN LOVE, GO FOR IT!...BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO LEGALIZE YOUR HEADACHES!"...makes sense?
6. FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN
Yeah, actually, it's more of this thing, or fear of failing again...Well, let me give you a precise example which we may all associate with. Think about a BULIMIC person.He or she (mostly female) has a constant craving for food (specially the very good and tasty food) and binges...And then, he/she feels guilty thereafter, induces emesis or purges (pretty subtle terms right?)...Bottomline?...At least, that person made the decision to gratify or satisfy his/her cravings...and then later on, decided as well, whether to digest it or not...What an illustration!
There's a lot more to STOP us from being romantically happy again...But most of the time, the problem lies within ourselves...there's just too many excuses...We always look at the past relationship being worse (occasionally, the best)and most of the time, we put the blame on the other person, but you know what?...HAVE WE EVER LOOKED AT OUR OWN FAULTS TOO? AND ARE WE WILLING TO CORRECT PREVIOUS MISTAKES, MAYBE THIS TIME, FOR THE NEXT PERSON?
We always claim that we had MOVED ON...After all of the above?. REALLY?
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Warm Heart, Cold Feet?
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Sep 6, 2011 2:57 am
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Here, there, and everywhere, I find men who can either be relationship material or a disaster I have even become friends/acquainted with players and liars (of course, I found out later) and yet, until now, they don't know that I know who and what they are, for real...I guess, I just let them blabber and feel good about themselves, thinking, they've made someone believe otherwise. What's the Big Deal? They want to be happy, and so be it! I am not selfish... Some of them made a pass on me, and I just ignored (not to offend them of course), and some were so fresh and rude, I got rid of them on the spot (in STYLE) , but a couple of them made subtle hints, which I foolishly missed  ( at least, I admit it! )blame it on my nature of NOT really giving color to some cues, thinking it would be nice if the person would just SAY it ! (with or without flowers, that is)  ...But oh well!  I am not the type who would poke a knife or a gun unto a man's throat just so he'd gather some guts to bring IT on! (whatever special feelings that person has for me)...I know, I know...and I am positive that there are still some good men out there, but yeah, they probably have WARM HEARTS, but COLD FEET.....By the way, those who are so full of themselves, better not cross my comfort barrier, or else!  |
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Not Having Someone is Actually a Blessing!
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Sep 1, 2011 12:59 am
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People fret about almost anything. Just because we do not have someone we can call our romantic "own" means we are unfortunate. Ahhhh! that is a fallacy. Sometimes, we're better off not having anybody than force yourself into having a relationship that is emotionally/physically and who knows, financially abusive..A couple of days back, I received an email here from an old acquaintance telling me that "I am such a waste" after he viewed my photo featured by Tess (tessRb) in her blogs. I beg to disagree with that man. I can sense that what he meant was that I am such a waste because my "body" was not "manipulated/used and abused" by carnal needs. That comment was the total opposite of what Tess was kindly depicting me as a friend, and the total personae that she believes I am. The problem with some people is that they cannot separate and distinguish what's merely physical, and what's considered personal and total package. I never considered myself as a "waste" or a "refuse" (noun). I have been very "useful" in many ways beyond the image that men usually considers. Which is why, I consider not having someone is actually a blessing. For one, I couldn't stand a man (if you could call him that) who plays with women's feelings and hurt them/us either deliberately or circumstantially. I am a one-man woman, and therefore I wish to have a one-woman man as well. I cannot deal with someone who is so full of himself, and self-righteous. I cannot allow any man to hurt me, for God forgive me, I am so capable of destroying him into pieces, literally, as insinuated. No Sir! If I find the MAN (or shall I say, if he "finds" me) who is loyal and faithful, and Godfearing (in the true sense of the word, and not in a pretentious way), I will offer my entire life to share with him in good times and bad...If not, I consider myself, just as very blessed.
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Emotions delayed/de-impersonalized by technology
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Aug 27, 2011 4:40 pm
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So, now, from yappy-yippying endlessly on the phone, we're into texting mode where one can either choose to delay, ignore, or delete the messages you try to get across. People even have the option to start a relationship by just texting, eradicating the need to hear one's voice and give the other person the chance to hear the "tone" of sincerity (yeah, I can tell from a person's voice on the other end if s/he is sincere and serious with what s/he's trying to say). The next thing you know, with the new technology, we can even opt to "block/reject" any incoming call from a certain person we do NOT LIKE.
Is this the kind of courtship I want? Definitely, NO!
Nowadays, it is so difficult to even find a fine man who's gentle enough to open the doors for a woman. Specially here in FFF, I often receive emails asking for my phone number and email addy and request immediately for a chat or webcam conference. Others have the nerve to even ask me to fly to wherever they are, and the worse experience I've encountered, is for a guy to ask me if he can "move-in" to my house...What a s-o-a-b!
Going back to the modern communication technology: My opinion (which is not necessarily yours) is that it took away the joy of hearing one's voice, the home visits, the face-to-face encounters, the public display of affection, and everything else that requires personal touch and efforts. To me, I can foresee everything else becoming robotized in the near future. Now it makes me realize and empathize with those women who'd prefer "BOB" in place of a non-emotional/passive MAN..
In relationships, when we are faced with uncertainties and indecisions, more often than not, the outcome is unpredictable. So, if you are looking for someone who still knows how to show emotions, get OFF the freaking phone and stop texting! You deserve someone who can meet you in the eye..And I feel the same way, too!
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