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 | indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.
do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.
its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.
be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.
they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.
none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.
i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption. |
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what would i have for breakfast?
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May 6, 2012 8:34 am
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it seems that what would i have for breakfast is a simple question and easy to be satisfied.
not if you are living by yourself and its a weekend, with the choices would be either to go out for breakfast or cook one for myself.
when i cook its usually bacon and eggs and when i go out, the choices are either starbucks, ihop, and mcdonald. yes there is no nearby pinoy outlet like jollibee or chowking where i could have my breakfast.
one other choice is to skip breakfast and go for brunch instead.
weekend is always a challenge as far as what to eat. at work we have the cafeteria and nearby restaurants that provide me choices for breakfast and lunch.
and then i have the usual oatmeal before i go to work. at weekend, i have to skip that oatmeal. oatmeal is something i force myself to have every weekdays because its good for my health together with fruits throughout the day.
during my years in the navy i have no problem with what to eat. all i have to do then is bring myself to the chowhall; then the food are free, and if not, they give me allowance to pay for my food.
in the 4 times i have been to the philippines the last two years with extended time of more than 3 weeks at each visit, i just don't have that problem of what to eat. i don't even have to make my coffee as i do now.
i eat healthy in the philippines too that i lost weight even eating way too much or indulging way too much. one reason is the food are fresh and home cook.
what i lost in the philippines is easily gained back in weights because sometimes i ate fast foods that are not healthy like nachos bellgrande or tv dinner like lasagna or cheeseburgers.
now that i am old, the beneficial way to live the remaining years of my life is to live it at the philippines.
heck there are many things now i rather not be doing like doing my own laundry and ironing my clothes.
i can also go to church with my family there every sunday or every moment we want to get in touch with our faith or to affirm with our faith. here i do settle watching the Healing Eucharist or going to mass through the TFC.
if i have my way, i rather have my boy grow up in the philippines until he is old enough to migrate to america. him by doing that, he is providing me the opportunity to live my remaining years without doing the things that i force myself to do now.
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you know who you are!
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May 5, 2012 7:20 pm
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defamation? how far would you bring yourself to defame others?
and what gain would you get? or its because you are just so lacking in self respect or perhaps you just want to project that you are a much better person than the one you defame.
no one should be measured on the account of others. not by any yardstick. or perhaps its just so cultural that one would feel so insecure of oneself and that by defaming others - you validate your worth. or perhaps you bring yourself into a crowd by such defamation of someone - and now to them you are now one hell of a go getter!
good for you and i hope you will maintain such stature throughout your life. that one's purpose of your living is to compare yourself to others. or better not, just keeping an eye on anyone that you would defame.
but what is your worth? would it matter what your worth is? our worth should not matter to anyone - except to our loved ones and to the Almighty.
and how could you gain your worth and even self respect if the only thing you care about is to defame someone?
i would not have banned you to post on my blogs is only i know that you could be decent and be respectful. you have none of those the way you were previously posting on my blogs. all you care about or bring into my blogs are the negativity of your thoughts - that i have to delete your postings and eventually banned you!
you know who you are!
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alternative lifestyle - being penniless!
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May 4, 2012 9:42 am
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Daniel Suelo is 51 years old and broke. Happily broke. Consciously, deliberately, blessedly broke.
Not only does he not have debt, a mortgage or rent, he does not earn a salary. Nor does he buy food or clothes, or own any product with a lower case "i" before it. Home is a cave on public land outside Moab, Utah. He scavenges for food from the garbage or off the land (fried grasshoppers, anyone?). He has been known to carve up and boil fresh road kill. He bathes, without soap, in the creek.
In the fall of 2000, Suelo (who changed his name from Shellabarger), decided to stop using money altogether. That meant no "conscious barter," food stamps or other government handouts. His mission was to "use only what is freely given or discarded and what is already present and already running," he wrote on his web site, Zero Currency.
The question many people wonder: Is he insane, or a mooch, or simply dedicated to leading a simple, honest, dare we say, Christ-like existence?
They're good questions. And depending whom you ask, the answers vary.
Suelo wasn't always a modern-day caveman. He went to the University of Colorado and studied anthropology, at one point considering medical school. He lived in a real house, with four walls, a window and a door, and shopped in stores, not their dumpsters.
But over time he says he grew depressed, clinically depressed, mainly with the focus on acquisition. "Every time I made a resume for a job, signed my name to a document, opened a bank account, or even bought a banana at the supermarket, I felt a tinge of dishonesty," he said.
He was born into an Evangelical Christian home in Grand Junction, Colo., and took his religion seriously. Eventually, he started wondering why "professed Christians rarely followed the teachings of Jesus--namely the Sermon on the Mount, namely giving up possessions, living beyond credit and debt--freely giving and freely taking--giving, expecting nothing in return, forgiving all debts, owing nobody a thing, living beyond payback of either evil-for-evil or good-for-good, living and walking without guilt (debt), without grudge (debt), without judgment (credit & debt), living by Grace, by Gratis, not by our own works but by the works of the true Nature flowing through," he said.
Although he considered himself a Christian, he discovered that the same principles applied to Taoism, Judaism, Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, Sikhism, Islam, Mormonism, Shamanism, and Paganism.
One year he went to Alaska and worked on the docks. But that, too, he says, felt dishonest. Instead, he and a buddy decided to live off the land—spearing fish, foraging for mushrooms and berries. (Think Castaway, but with snow). Suelo (which means soil in Spanish) eventually hitch-hiked back to Moab with $50 in his pocket. By the time he arrived, his stash had dwindled to $25. He realized that he only needed money for things he really didn't need, like snacks and booze.
He began toying with the idea of living full-time without money. He traveled to India, and became fascinated by Hindu Sadhus, who wandered without lucre and possessions. He considered joining them, but then he realized that "A true test of faith would be to return to one of the most materialistic, money-worshipping nations on earth, to return to the authenticity profound principles of spirituality hidden beneath our own religion of hypocrisy, and be a Sadhu there," he said. "To be a vagabond, a bum, and make an art of it - this idea enchanted me."
And soon, that's exactly what he did. He says he left his life savings—a whopping $30—in a phone booth, and walked away.
But he didn't do it in a vacuum; he maintained his blog for free from the Moab public library. Rather than just sitting on a mountain and gazing at his navel, he wanted to have an impact on others, to spread his gospel.
In 2009, Mark Sundeen, an old acquaintance he'd worked with at a Moab restaurant, heard about Suelo through mutual friends. At first, "I thought he must have lost his mind," Sundeen, 42, said in a telephone conversation. But then he began reading his blog, and grew intrigued. Sundeen divides his time between Missoula, Mont., and Moab, where he was once a river guide, and he paid a visit to Suelo's cave.
Gradually, he said he realized that much of what Suelo was saying made a whole lot of sense. This was right around the time the economic crashed, and "It felt like a lot of what he was saying was prophetic," said Sundeen. "That money is an illusion, an addiction. That resonated with me after the collapse for the economy."
Sundeen was so intrigued that he decided to write a book about Suelo, The Man Who Quit money, which was published in March.
While the book reviews have been generally positive, Suelo has come under fire by some who say he's a mooch, or a derelict, sponging off society without contributing. They are valid criticisms: This is a guy, after all, who's gotten arrested for train hopping, (what would Jesus say about that?). And he's not opposed to house sitting in winter--not exactly living off the land.
And besides: How is he actually helping others by going without? It's not like he's solving world hunger, or curing cancer.
Sundeen disputes these arguments. "He doesn't accept any government programs—welfare, food stamps, Medicare," he said. "The only ways in which he actually uses taxpayer funded derivatives is walking on roads and using the public library. So in that regard he's a mooch--he's using the roads and not paying taxes. But if you try to quantify the amount of money he's taking from the system—it's a couple of dollars a year, less than anyone's ever used."
Instead, he is actively promoting "his idea that money is an illusion," Sundeen said. "The Fed just prints it up, it doesn't mean anything and it's going to lead us down the road to serfdom." Suelo simply doesn't want to contribute to that, and so he lives life on his own terms.
That said, Sundeen wouldn't live the way Suelo does. "The appeal to me is the living outdoors part, but I feel like I got my feel of that working as an Outward Bound guide," he said. "At this point I have other priorities."
Suelo, for his part, has no plans to bring money back into his life. "I know it's possible to live without money," he said. "Abundantly."
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how do we get the numbers?
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May 1, 2012 9:57 am
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how do we get the numbers (?) is a general question that could pertains to anything.
i am specifically asking the question of how we get to the numbers of over 200 viewers of our blogs.
yes my blogs initially or in the first few days it was posted, it would only register viewers of no more than 40. but if i go back and check my previous blogs after awhile, the number of viewers registered would go as far as high of over 200. some of my old blogs would shown as viewed by over 900.
not that i am particular about how many view my blogs. i would care less and its not that important.
but how would that be possible? there are only few bloggers on this site? i don't think they would repetitively view my blogs.
its somehow boggle the mind.
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sounds familiar!
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Apr 30, 2012 9:50 am
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sometimes the events in our lives or someone's life sounds familiar.
take for example a woman i know of who met her husband 7 years ago.
during the first year of acquaintance or being just lovers, they flew to vancouver, canada and tokyo.
a year later they got married and then a year later they have son. a year later they bought a house.
a year later, the economy went south and the husband got laid off.
two years later the unemployment benefits ran out.
they are now in a financial bind because the husband cannot find a job. one reason that he cannot find a job is because he is just a high school graduate. its used to be, being a high school graduate you can find a decent manufacturing jobs. but that's history now. most jobs now requires a college degree.
she is a college graduate with a government tenure job.
would education should matter a lot when we fall in love with someone?
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urge and indulgence!
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Apr 29, 2012 11:12 am
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urge and indulgence are not the same.
urge is something that you must immediately satisfy yourself or have to experience right at the moment you have the urge.
indulgence is something you do infrequently, but never because of an urge. we avoid indulgence if we could because it would be bad either to our health or our financial situation cannot afford to fund that indulgence. yes indulgence is just sometimes hard to satisfy than urge.
men not into a relationship sometimes would have that urge to have sex, and if you are in toronto, canada or armsterdam where prostitution is legal - then a man can satisfy his urge.
i think at the philippines that is easy too if one have the money to satisfy the urge. it would be the height of hypocrisy is someone would deny that such situation do not exist at the philippines. at malate and by the mall at malate, there are even women preying on men for such escapades.
for the first time, i had that urge to drink diet coke early in the morning! hmm i was just so lucky that i have a diet coke at the fridge. it was just too easy to satisfy such urge.
so what was your recent indulgence or your urge now!
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not sustainable!
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Apr 28, 2012 9:51 am
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there are things that we do that are not sustainable or just does not make sense.
i think trip to the starbucks for a grande caramel macchiato at the price of $5.00 is not sustainable or just does not make sense.
the actual price of the caramel macchiato is $4.25, but then why would you accept the change when the servers are just working for a minimum wage and relying on tips? or you can get the venti for $4.75.
its just appropriate to go for the grande so you could leave the $.75 for tip.
yes for the last 3 days i have been having a grande caramel macchiato. but it just have to stop by tomorrow because $5.00 for a cup of coffee is just way too expensive. once in a while perhaps yeah.
it used to be i can afford all that indulgence and won't bother me a bit. but things have changed with my frequent trips to texas and to the philippines - that $5 a day could be tremendous savings that could be will spent in the company of my children in texas or in the company of my boy in the philippines.
that sense of responsibility is sometimes is just getting into us. we deprive ourselves of the usual indulgence we have.
do you have indulgence that you could deprive yourself with?
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myth making sense!
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Apr 27, 2012 4:01 pm
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"For women, it seems that the peak age for happiness, comfort and confidence is 35.
According to a study from clothing brand CC clothing, women hit their prime in their mid-thirties. One in three women interviewed said they grew more comfortable with their appearance as they got older.
According to the Daily Mail, a spokesman for CC said:
"It's encouraging that so many women are more confident and attractive the older they get. Confidence, knowledge and wisdom are crucial when it comes to looking good."
This research seems to coincide with the common belief that women reach their sexual peak in their thirties, while men reach it in their late teens and early twenties—Nature's cruel joke on humanity. But if science has anything to say about it, that's a mere myth.
It's true that there are specific ages when sex hormones are at their highest in both men and women. But according to Women's Health, Dr. Lee P. Shulman, a professor of obstetrics and gynecology, the level of hormones “has absolutely no correlation to the enjoyment, the activity, the frequency of sex." Basically, those hormones don't play that big of a part in one's overall sex drive.
Biologically, there might not be any evidence to support a specific age for sexual prime. But the myth may have some sociological validity, according to sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright. She points out that women in their thirties are usually in long-term, monogamous relationships. Fulbright writes:
"Many women find themselves finally letting loose and embracing their sexuality during this time."
Pair that with the fact that women feel most confident at 35, and the myth seems to make sense."
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picking up the pieces!
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Apr 19, 2012 1:57 pm
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picking up the pieces? yes we do it everyday. some do it casually and some do it with urgency. some do it with heavy heart and others do it with a shrug of their shoulders.
the longest recession has been around now for 3 years, but others have started picking up the pieces and starting to get employed. the economy is chugging along with hopeful sign of a steady recovery. yes just steady and not robust.
yes you can be also on a prolong emotional recession with no one loving you in terms of man to a woman relationship. maybe its just a matter for you to pick up the pieces in bringing yourself available for relationship.
better yet, change your strategy and be aggressive instead of waiting for something to happen. yeah play along!
yes YOU! get yourself together! you deserve to be happy!
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defying stereotypes!
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Apr 19, 2012 6:02 am
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If you had almost five billion dollars, what would you do? For Karl Wlaschek, the answer is marry a lot.
Forbes is reporting via Vienna News that Austrian retail tycoon Wlaschek will wed for the fifth time at the ripe old age of 94. His bride-to-be, girlfriend Friederike 'Ricki' Schenk, won't reveal her age, but is likely a good three decades behind her groom.
That means Wlaschek, a self-made mogul, has defied stereotypes by proposing to a woman who's closer to his age than the average Hef-to-twin-sisters ratio.
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