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 | indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.
do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.
its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.
be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.
they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.
none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.
i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption. |
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it could be worst!
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Dec 9, 2011 3:50 pm
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"it could be worst" is an expression that could be similar to "coming to terms." maybe not and its totally different. or maybe one would say, it depends!
i think the words "it could be worst" is appropriately express in a fashion to express gratitude. unlike coming to terms as an expression of resignation, it could be worst is a retrospection.
one could say life could have been worst had one not left the philippines. would it be really? or its just an expression that one life is better off abroad comparing to the life in the philippines.
how would one know that one life would have been actually worst in the philippines? definitely there is no absolutely way of knowing it. but relatively speaking, one can gauge that one life was better off than having it live in the philippines.
i am definitely better off not living my life in the philippines. i have been bless in many ways and no amount of disappointments or setbacks would dampen my spirit of gratitude - BECAUSE IT COULD HAVE BEEN WORST.
perhaps my sense of gratitude is one of the reasons why i am so blessed of being younglooking, and the reason i have a happy disposition.
but then how would we account for those who left the philippines inspite of their grand life their - having servants and all that!
would those who have plenty in life and living comfortably in the philippines would utter the words it could be worst? or they are just nostalgic of having left the philippines leaving behind them the full amenities that enjoy having with.
how about you? would it been worst for you or you have come to terms instead.
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one crowning achievement!
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Dec 5, 2011 5:56 pm
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yes its a crowning achievement. no it was not mine. it was from someone i really don't know or familiar with. but we crossed our path today in the process of doing my job.
he was 77 when he got married in 1993 with someone who was then 36 years old. the following year they have a daughter. he lived up to his 95 and then the 36 years old wife is now 54 and widowed.
yes he was too old when he got married and not expected to be a father, but he was courtesy of a young woman in her 30s.
for 18 years they live together in hawaii until his death. yes both husband and wife were from ilocos.
what was uncommon with the two is that they have a gap age of 41 years.
i guess for oldkanaba, its never too late to have a crowning achievement in his 70s. he just have to go home to the philippines and find that someone young willing to love him and marry him.
this is not the first time i noticed that big age difference in matrimonial situation in the process of doing my job
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coming to terms!
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Dec 2, 2011 8:09 pm
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what coming to terms meant to you?
would it meant you accept, you settle or you resign?
now its getting confusing! how could coming to terms meant to be acceptance, being settled and resignation?
its funny how americans have way with words. they are not sometimes absolute in conveying their thoughts. but they often use the words coming to terms.
what if they say that some of the women of fff have come to terms of being single? some even proudly professed such coming to terms!
have they really accepted being single? or they have instead settled for being single? how about they have resigned being single? are these three sentences meant the same thing or it all meant differently?
let's say if you would come to terms being single, would it be because there is nothing much you can do to change your situation. or you can still change your situation but you just thought trying would not make a dent.
why would someone come to terms of remaining single for the rest of one's life? out of fear perhaps of rejection or they are now emotionally demented!
what if you give up of waiting for that someone? did you give up because you thought that you have aged and no amount of waiting could make a difference? or did you give up because there is nothing to choose from or the available selections are not up to your standards.
i thought and specially for women - coming to terms is generational. i don't think a woman in her 30s would ever thought of coming to terms of being single.
but age actually is not a hindrance for finding that someone. one can be resourceful and be a cougar.
hmm  this is thought provoking as if YL55 is writing this blog!
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i want to avoid!
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Dec 2, 2011 5:40 pm
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i want to avoid? no its not you or someone else or an event about to happen. its nothing like that!
besides even if its you or someone else or an event, if it have to happen, then it must.
now let's start with the core of my blog. what i want to avoid is blogging about work, which most would not be able to relate with anyway. but then others could.
i guess i could not avoid! here it is just sharing my thoughts!
work is where we spend most of our time and more so than with a relationship. others are even defined by their work. in the philippines even in or out of work or in social settings, they demanded to be called formally if one had attained such status as a doctor or an engineer or a lawyer. but not in america. generally one could be just be called casually by their first name of nickname in all settings.
others would insist by saying, please just call me Bill!
i wonder if pinoys/pinays who attained such status are offended if they are not address with such glorified name attached to their persona? i would not just know because i myself has not attained such status or been addressed other than my name or my military rank when i was in the navy.
i wonder if its just peculiar to the pinoy culture wherein someone who have attained status are always given the preferential treatment or put into a high pedestal by ordinary pinoys/pinays? in most gatherings one is introduce to the crowd or in a party with such pomp and circumstances.
there are also many honorables in the philippines. even local village public officials are called honorables!
oppp's i wandered. its not about the culture in the philippines i had in mind when started this blog. anyway i will share it with my next blog what's really on my mind.
i guess digressing or wandering is just a part of blogging. let's just call it for now lack of focus.
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5 wednesday!
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Nov 30, 2011 1:54 pm
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yes there are five wednesday for november and i blog for each of this month's wednesdays except for november 16.
hmm it must be coincidental that i only blog on wednesday for this month. so for this month i only have blogged 4 times.
this wednesday the dow jones is back to 12K gaining almost 500 points for the day. i should have now recouped my losses for the last two weeks and should now about even.
should i now park my small investments to the most safest instrument or should i just continue to be riskier?
i think i should continue to take risk for now!
personally there is a great reason to be joyful and thankful! i will keep it to myself for now. its one of those life changing event in our lives - the one we called for POSTERITY! 
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divided and disfunctional!
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Nov 23, 2011 1:53 pm
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this thanksgiving, one thing i am not thankful for is the divided and dysfunctional government.
the supercommittee of 12 went kaput and unable to agree on anything, thereby causing retirees big money as their investment went south.
the congressional leaders said and most congressperson said that failure is not an option and yet they totally failed.
we should elect one government next year of either electing a republican president and a republican congress or a democrat president and a democrat congress.
enough of this divided government or blue and red states.
i thought i was gaining ground on my small investments when the dow jones went up to 12K. now its down to 11k as a reaction to the divided government and the mess in europe!
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dump you for no good reason!
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Nov 9, 2011 1:49 pm
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i have recouped yesterday all my losses on my small investments and i was even plus $370.00.
but lo and behold the dow jones closed today with a whopping almost 400 points drop, which mean i should be down by $5K plus.
when the dow jones was below 9K, i stayed and wished it to be back to 12K plus, which was the number when i switched into a risky investment. it was in the 12K plus yesterday recouping all my losses.
hmm the stock market is just like wooing a woman. when you think you are up there and almost got her, lo and behold she changed her mind and dump you for no good reason.
hmmm perplexing!
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flamboyant womanizer!
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Oct 20, 2011 12:59 pm
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" Choose a work which you love and you won't have to work a single day of your life. " quotation from Jane82's blog!
its true, a work that you love is not necessarily a work. but how many of us really love the work we do? its hard to say. most of us work because we have to no matter how dreadful the work is. i would think physicians do love their work and so are the policeman. both jobs required an extra-ordinary dedication, and specially for those in the medical fields that they spent years acquiring the education and honing their skills.
i would not say that to those who are or were nurses because at some point or some of them pursue such education for the purpose of migrating to another country.
personally, its something that i have not experienced in my life -loving my work! all the work that i have done, i was not really absolutely passionate about. the military gave me an exciting work with benefits to travel that others just dream about. but my total love for and about the military, was never there. it was an adventure that lasted only for 26 years. a work that you love could last for eternity.
sometimes we can not choose the work that we like because of responsibilities. not many of us can be a starving artist or a corrupted politician or a flamboyant womanizer.
hmm i like that! working as a flamboyant womanizer, which would be more than swell!
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it was flattering!
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Oct 19, 2011 9:05 pm
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i attended a bday party last saturday and those who knew and have last seen me over 4 years said that i have not age a bit.
it was flattering indeed. but looking younger is not necessarily by accident or by genes. there are rudiments and processes involved in looking younger.
looking younger and staying younger are two different things. you can look younger, but the fact will remain that one or you are still aging physically. yes aging is a process that we can not stop.
lately i have felt that i could not sit still for long minutes. i have to at least stand up every 15 minutes and posture erect my upper body, and then take a walk. i coined my present predicament as having a restless leg's syndrome.
for the most part i think the reason i look younger is that i keenly take care of myself with a lot of sleep, rest, no stresss or barely minimum stress, fruits and vegetables and most of all not smoking and drinking.
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was it the flu shot?
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Oct 18, 2011 7:09 pm
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i had the flu shot last thursday afternoon. by saturday evening i was feeling sick and real sick by sunday evening with cough and colds.
was it really the flu shot that got me sick or was it the cold cold diet coke the i had with at my dinner friday night?
it started just having an itched on my throat early saturday morning and escalated by afternoon to a sore throat, a cough and then colds.
i think it was the ice cold cold diet coke. there is a pattern that whenever i drink ice cold cold beer or sodas, my throat does get irritated which sometimes led to having a sore throat and then cough and colds.
i routinely does not drink sodas and only when i have pasta that i yearn for sodas. last friday i do have pasta and therefore i yearned for that soda - and i have a very cold one.
hmm i am much feeling better now. yesterday it was a drag the whole day waiting for the work day to be over. it crossed my mind to go home and use my sick leave, but lingered instead until the work day is over. heck i don't have that many sick leave available anyway. i used most of it for paternity leave this year.
sickness it seems is so hard for anyone. how much more i guess for someone so young and unable to communicate their sickness. hmmm i talking about those babies and toddlers, and the very sick elderly who could not help himself or herself.
either it was the flu shot or the cold drink, its hard to pinpoint the reason why i got sick. just like in life, there are many variables why for example, such a relationship became toxic. was it because we were so selfish and we only thought about ourselves. or was it because we thought more of him or her that we forgot to take care of ourselves and sacrifice our own well being?
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