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 | indeed! sometimes in the midst of trying to define someone we erred on making false assumptions by just the virtue of reading what they posted or in manner their share their engaging thoughts in the chatroom.
do we have the right to make assumptions of others without having thoroughly knowing who they are? at what point do we know someone anyway? would it be enough that by conversing with someone on the chatroom - viola! we certainly know how they are or who they are and what they are.
its hard to validate assumptions specially giving in a timeframe that is to irrational and only based on gut feelings. perhaps was given at a point when somehow unknowingly you have offended someone, bruised their ego or unintentionally invaded their space or at a point wherein you are not in the best of mood. regardless there is nothing wrong with providing assumption and yet there is also nothing wrong in refuting the fallacy of assumption. would i refute assumption? i would not. the burden of truly knowing me is on them. they must on the course of their lives must know me extensively if they want me to be a part of their lives.
be as it may, some of us becomes victim of a false assumption and suddenly most become convinced because of that false assumption that you are indeed such and such without them actually knowing you in an extended period of time.
they said that i have a high regard of myself and that nakarating lang ako sa america ay kung sino na ako. everyone must have a high regard of themselves. by mostly having that, its the foundation of having a healthy life and then acquiring an excellent perspective of life. but to assume that someone only having a high regard of themselves because of where they are or have been or dahil nakarating sa america is making a mockery of one's insecurity.
none of us has the purity of values and therefore assumptions are sometimes false and never right specially given at a point that one never was closed to you or have been intimate with us.
i was not offended by the assumptions accorded on my behalf, after all eveyone has the right to make assumptions and even share it with many. but to others it could be dismaying experience to the point that to them it becomes a nightmare because they have been ill defined by virtue of that assumptions. but no one could ever define us except ourselves. and if you have a high regard of yourself, then nothing matters including false assumption. |
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how are we so far?
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Jan 12, 2012 1:58 pm
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is a valid question to raise during a gathering or dealing with a special group project.
hmm  it not necessarily, it be just the two of you, such as, "how are we so far in our relationship"?
how are we so far is a question raise to gauge a situation, or relationship or a project, etc, etc! its about checking the progress or status of a situations, relationships and projects.
i should have raised that question in the earliest days of my blogging, "how are you so far being annoyed with my blogs?"
hmm but the question is or was now academic, its been said and done! i know you were easily a victim of the fallacy of assumption.
how am i so far with my preparation with my trip? i am about ready to go, just need to take a shower and then i am off to the airport. and then quite so early.
well, i could not change the way i travel. i am always early at the airport, sometimes way too early of about four hours or more. i guess this behavior is a carry over from my military life. we are always early in our redenvouz point.
hmm would i be early at a pinoy eb?
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how could you?
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Jan 11, 2012 8:26 pm
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how could is a question we raised to others when we are in disbelief. or when in disagreement - such as "how could you divorce me when i love you much." or "how could spend so much money on such stuff." or to a deadbeat dad, "how could you not love your own son."
my kids know that i am going to the philipines where i will stay for 5 weeks. they could have raised the how could you dad?
how could you dad when you have never spent more than two weeks with us since 2001, and yet you are going back to the philippines for the 4th time is a span of two years, staying for 3 weeks and more. you were there too in 2001 for 9 months.
they could say i am spending way too much time in the philippines and yet they never did raise the issue.
part of the reason is that they do have a life of their own now. my eldest have a family of her own and my youngest have a bf of 7 years and busy with her studies and volunteering work at the SPCA.
hmm ? i could not remember exactly what SPCA means, but has something to do with taken care of abandon animals like dogs and cats. yes my youngest have a love for animals and is pursuing a vet degree - with 4 more years to go.
but i do visit them almost every 6 to 8 weeks especially from september to march when the airfare are cheaper. i was with them xmas last year and throughout the new year.
another reason why they never raise the how could you is that they are great kids with the happiness of their dad in mind.
they also know that i have responsibilities in the philippines.
i am blessed to have two great daughters who understands the intricacies and complexities of life!
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how was it?
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Jan 9, 2012 6:32 pm
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how was it is a question we ask others and not ourselves. but we can still use how in the context of ourselves, but still asking others.
how was i cannot be answered by ourselves. when such question is raised of how was i, we are mostly looking for a positive affirmation. but an honest to goodness person should tell you as it is or should be, even if the answer would dismay or disappoint us.
how would you react then to an answer to your question of how was i when the answer is, "not too good." others would consider it as a challenge to do better next time.
how was i during our eb's in vegas about 3 or 4 years ago? i would say i mingled well and i had proven them the fallacy of assumption - that in person i was far off from the character i portrayed in my most earliest blogs. i made them laugh a lot too and showed them that i too can be generous at heart!
how was i as a new father in my almost 60's? its hard to tell for now because its an ongoing process. but there were unexpected challenges that i have not experienced with my two grown up daughters. for now, its not an easy sailing compared to the challenges i had with my daughters. but with faith and with the blessings and love of the Almighty, all will be well!
in God's hands is how we should live our lives. as imperfect on how we live our lives, how was i is a personal question we can ask ourselves in terms of our own personal relationship with God.
how was it as inquisitive question, sometimes raise to unravel a mystery. if for the first time you have eaten a crocodile meat, someone may ask you how was it.
or when you finally had eb with someone you have a crush on, one would ask how was your meeting with her. then additional question may be added such as, do you really find her beautiful in person?
how was your day seems insignificant to most, but if you raise that question to someone dear to you, it does ring so beautiful because it means you care.
so how's everyone? and how was your day?
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but you must!
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Jan 8, 2012 9:13 am
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but you must! yes its something you don't enjoy doing, but you must.
there are list of things that i don't enjoy doing but i must.
doing the laundry, washing my car and tidying up the place are few of those list.
but its not longer the question that i must. over the years of doing it, it becomes second nature or mechanical.
we must work is sometimes one of those we don't enjoy doing once in awhile. but we cannot get away from the "the must of work." its not a question of must, but we have to. otherwise how would we live comfortably or not without the renumeration of working!
i guess in our pursuit of happiness we must; such as pursuing someone and professing how much we love her.
however after being successful in the we must of the pursuit of someone, we settled and its no longer we must and more likely we tend to take the relationship for granted. then must is no longer part of the relationship - at the end it becomes we part!
hmm i am off to the philippines in few days and i must bring pasalubongs. only in my travel to the philippines that i must do such thing.
for the meantime, i must have to go and wash my car.
enjoy the rest of your day everyone and be happy!
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could we get use with it!
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Jan 6, 2012 7:27 pm
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could we get use with it is a question we ask ourselves sometimes, and perhaps unknowingly and indirectly.
perhaps we don't even ask and we just adjust ourselves to a situation were there are no choices but to get use with it.
but sometimes in getting use with it, there is always that longing!
yes my dad has been away three years yesterday. i may have gotten use with his absence, but still the longing is there! my dad lived to be 81 and my eldest boy would have been 1 year old on jan 21 this year.
but one way or another we must get use with it and accept that all of us are not here forever - and that when we loss someone, it was meant to be.
i thought the best way to remember someone whom we loved is to be thankful to God for the blessings of having our loved ones shared their lives with us, even if that life was only for few days, for few weeks and for few months.
sometimes God takes someone from us for a reason, such us to lessen our sacrifices or the unbearable griefs. i believe that God knows our threshold and that whatever sufferings we must suffer - is because we can handle it.
and inspite of our sufferings we must continue to hope for a better day and be thankful for living a life even if its a life of sufferings!
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where do you go from here?
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Jan 5, 2012 1:59 pm
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its a silly question mostly often ask when we are in a roadblock or mental block.
yes i am in a such stage because i just don't know what to write for now.
hmm where would i go from here?
its not only a question about writing, it could be about handling most situations in life.
but i know for sure i would like to continue on living with misery and all.
isn't it human to suffer, to love, to enjoy and then be blissful?
i always believe that the things we suffered for are there because God knows we can handle it.
and for all the sufferings we have, its still far better than having to be in a situation 6 feet under or such similar situation.
good luck on living!
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i am overwhelmed!
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Jan 4, 2012 1:56 pm
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yes i am overwhelmed, not about your emotions or mine or about challenges in life. i am still managing those and i believe at the end, i will survive triumphantly!
but when things are not so that important and/or a permanent part of one life, then it could be overwhelming!
yes it overwhelms me when i sometimes visit fff and see tons of blogs in one day with one blogger - i thought would his or her blogs made sense.
my usual reaction is, i would not even dare take a look.
oppps! on the contrary, i am not or was not overwhelmed! it just that it seems - a sore thumb about to poke my eye and dampen my day!
sorry whoever is sort of being portrayed by this blog. but i think i make sense! do i?
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i'll catch up when i can!
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Jan 3, 2012 9:59 am
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yes there were lots of blogs i missed reading since the start of the holidays last year.
i'll catch up when i can! but i wonder if could.
maybe i just let it be. it was not meant for me to read those blogs.
then in just few days, i would be absent for an extended period of time. i would not probably visit this forum from jan 12 to feb 28. but then who knows?
with all the challenges i had last year, hopefully 2012 will be a better year.
i wish everyone a better 2012.
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i see you all next year!
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Dec 21, 2011 7:26 pm
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i see you all next year
Dec 23, 2010 7:12 am
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i have the tendency to disengage sa net whenever i am with my kids or whenever i am with someone i love.
yes many times i have done that and starting this afternoon on my way to the airport i will be disengaging again from the net.
the earlier i could return is monday, january 3, 2011.
wishing everyone a great xmas holiday and may the new year brings you happiness.
but if i have the opportunity to peek, then i may. but for now its more likely that i would be temporarily disengaging.
2010 was an interesting year for me in many aspects. thanks for making it interesting here in fff.
i see you all next year!
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