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the borrowers Is there anyone here who had been accused of stealing (or at least trying to) someone’s boyfriend or husband (girlfriend/wives) weather in cyber or in real life? Is the allegation justified or it was just another case of paranoia of an overly jealous partner who was suffering from insecurities regarding her/his position in a relationship and it happened that you were there at the wrong place at the wrong time? Could you honestly say that the indicter had no ground or whatsoever and just pinpointing you out of envy possessiveness or distrust? Or perhaps indeed you have given her/him reasons to doubt your motives regarding her/his other half? Were you totally innocent and someone had just misread your being friendly towards this guy (or girl) or indeed you were harbouring a secret notion that you suited him (or her) better and would it be great if s/he would wake up soon and realized that his/her current relationship left a lot to be desired and when it happen you wanted to be sure that you are the first on the list of possible candidates for replacement and while at it why not give fate a helping hand? When all the hell broke loose, what did you do? Did you deny everything and said to her/his face: you silly b!tch. Nobody wants your boyfriend (or gf) that’s why s/he’s with you, or it’s too late baby there is no turning back and this how I do it? or sh!t happens my dear, go live with it. Could be also that you are one of those people who will not rest unless s/he cleared her/his good name, apologizing for a mistake you didn’t and will not commit, walking away thinking only guilty parties explain. Or maybe you are like me who was not even remotely guilty but feel remorseful nonetheless?  only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide |
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9/14/2012 12:31 pm |
Once upon a time a girl worked in a small shoe factory as a designer/maker for the summer so she can pay her tuition for the next school year. She worked hard and through the night wanting to make as many as she can for the owner was paying by the bulk. While everyone sleeps the girl slaves away ignoring the advances of male workers around her and the nearby other factories which were situated on the hill in make-shifts cottages with bare ground serving as floors. The reason for this was the recent flooding that submerged most of the houses in the neighbourhood. They had to wade in the water to get to their sleeping quarters and to take a bath which the girl finds increasingly hard to do for several reasons. She had no money to buy soap and shampoo and too proud to ask for an early loan so she swallowed the criticism of everyone around her saying she was not keen on personal hygiene. And she didn’t care for the look that she got every time she bares her legs to wade in the filthy water. One night out of the blue while one co-worker asking her about seemed innocent questions about relationships in general as always she’s trying to answer it as honestly as she could, the wife of the owner suddenly materialized from behind the wall attacking her and accusing her of trying to seduce her husband from day one. It was a set up. The poor girl was speechless in shock! She didn’t understand what was happening? How it was come about? What was the cause? She didn’t understand! So, she stood there while the wife rattling away dragging her person and her credibility and reputation through the mud. The woman got even further by saying to the other male workers that: is this the girl you all holding in high regard and losing your heads off? Someone who will not even have a second thought ruining a perfectly happy home? What happy home the girl thought… your husband is never around and I don’t even know him except from the few occasions I encounter him by the temporary bamboo bridge on the way to the kitchen. We never even talk! But it was too late. Before she knew what was happening, she found herself thrown out on the streets in the middle of the night. A guy named Joey insisted to accompany her wherever she wishes to go, which was difficult to decide since she had no money and there was no transportation available at that hour anymore. So she walked and walked and walked with Joey by her side. But Joey was not the prince on a white horse who was trying to rescue her and ride onto the sunset to happily ever after. He got an evil plan. Once they were out of the vicinity of the houses, he tried to manhandle and forced himself on her. Luckily her father taught her few moves to defend herself in case and she managed to wrestle her way away from Joey. She ran and ran and ran till she found herself in the middle of a big chicken farm. She hid herself in one of the copes and spent the night there. The next morning, she woke up to another day and another challenge of finding her way home…. only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/14/2012 12:32 pm |
The same girl is now a woman married and has children of her own. In one of her tipsy episodes she made a mistake of kissing fourteen years old boy who was bigger than her and looked a lot older and a hell lot enthusiastic but all of that were no excuses to justify the deed. Four years later, she was in the market shopping when a vehicle stopped in front of her and came a heavily pregnant young woman out trying to attract her attention. Not recognizing the stranger she thought it was a mistake and she finished her marketing and went home. Before she reached the front door there came the woman again attacking and accusing her of something like give me back my husband??? What??? She thought… her plane just landed the other day, what is this woman was blabbering about??? She told the girl that if she will not lower her voice she would smack her filthy mouth so hard her teeth will rattle. That did the trick. It turned out that the girl’s husband upon hearing the woman was back in town packed his bags and left his wife (they are not married though) that morning and on the way to see her. The girl not wanting to accept the fact just like that tried to beat her husband by going directly to the woman herself. And it seems she got lucky too. But who is the foolish husband this hysterical girl was talking about? There must be some mistake here somewhere because the woman doesn’t know these people. The confusion died away when suddenly out from another vehicle accompanied by his uncle and his brother came the 14 year old boy, now 18 older and bigger and towering over her. As it turned out, the boy spent 4 years going back each year to her place waiting and hoping one day she will be back, holding an old round can of biscuit full of memories. A stolen photograph of her, a candy wrapper she once given him, a scented handkerchief, a barbecue stick they once shared while walking in town a dried catmon flowers which he had given her one morning in the mountain. He laid them next to her bed while she was sleeping and couple of coloured elastics to tie her hair. On the third year of waiting, the boy encountered this girl who despite the warning from the boy that he is already in love with someone else and would leave her (or anybody) once the woman is back had agreed to a pseudo-relationship. When the woman asked the girl why she consented to that kind of arrangement, the girl said that she thought the woman would never come back anymore. And if, she will see to it that he would not be able to leave her that’s why she gets pregnant. She even came as far as kneeling on front of the woman begging her to please release her husband. When the woman asked the boy why do all these things, he gave her one reason only: it is because he loves her. After talking to the boy in private and elicit a solemn promise from him that if he really loves her he will not put her in uncompromising situation, the woman moved out to ensure that she will never see that stup!d boy again… only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/14/2012 12:34 pm |
i wrote all of these in real time so, in case of multiple faults, grammatical errors, typos etc. my sincere apology... only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/14/2012 12:39 pm |
this blog takes forever to show up    only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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Bebs, Sad story. The girl had to beg to give her hubby back. Such a waste he was the one landiin other women... Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...
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9/14/2012 11:36 pm |
Bebs, Sad story. The girl had to beg to give her hubby back. Such a waste he was the one landiin other women... sometimes we have no idea the consequences of one thoughtless action to the lives of other people even we, ourselves think it is just a joke, nothing serious and something we can forget about in the 2nd story they are all innocent victims only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/14/2012 11:38 pm |
find another way to seek attention antonio for we all know that you will never do such things for anyone you love yourself too much only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/14/2012 11:41 pm |
i read somewhere here that it is almost impossible for one person to experience too much in one lifetime i thought: wait till they get up to a certain age they will know  especially if they are like me only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/14/2012 11:48 pm |
in life, mahirap kasi magsalita ng tapos sometimes despite of what we hold in high regard promises we made for ourselves, morals and values upbringing instilled in our heads... we cannot avoid what fate have written for us-destiny and you will say, but we have choices-to do what is right and wrong and i will tell you: if everyone follow this rule, then nobody will make mistakes ever but since we all do, well...there you got it only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/14/2012 11:49 pm |
there is some truth in that till it happened to you only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 12:34 am |
i forgot to include the other side of the coin okay, those who were standing on the opposite side, wo/men who been victims of "snatchers"... you are welcome as well  only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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in life, mahirap kasi magsalita ng tapos sometimes despite of what we hold in high regard promises we made for ourselves, morals and values upbringing instilled in our heads... we cannot avoid what fate have written for us-destiny and you will say, but we have choices-to do what is right and wrong and i will tell you: if everyone follow this rule, then nobody will make mistakes ever but since we all do, well...there you got it Agree completely on this one. No one ever plans for the wrong things to happen to them. Destiny or fate stops you in its track. Like they say in the movie "one one ever plans to be a mistress". It happens. At the end you chosse always to do the right thing. Most of all try not to hurt anyone in the process... Happy weekend Greatest feelings in the world when two souls profess a love for each other...
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9/15/2012 6:46 am |
Oh yes, I got an experience with this one...2 times actually The first one, a german guy married to a pinay friend. One time, my friend invited me to her house but since she was still in shower room, her hubby entertained me. He let me in inside the house while waiting, usap kami bla bla...was just a casual talk for me. After few days, got already mail in my "prenster" account, all praises from him, not once but several times then later giving his cp number,but didn`t take note of it. Anyway, I answered him once but direct, I told him straight than I take his friendship but together with my friend, not as individual. Well, he realized that was not good and he later vent to me, that their marriage was on the rocks and he found me exactly opposite of his wife My failure: I told to my friend`s cousin who is living next to my village, who has no idea about social networking that time. In turn she told to their common friend and this common friend ( dunno her personally other than her name) later told to my friend that we were exchanging emails in yahu and chatting and I am flirting to her hubby,(never was the case)...so you can imagine how that information spread among the community
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9/15/2012 7:17 am |
The second one, another pinay who has turkish bf was fond of me. I felt already when she introduced him to me the first time. Well, in fairness he`s very helpful too as he knows many things about cars and kitchen things and he helps not only me but all our friends, without expecting in return... but later calling, texting and/or messaging in efby. First of all, he`s not my type, he`s a friend`s bf, and I`m not interested to make my life more complicated But jealousy sucks, not long enough I found out that they broke up and this lady pinay friend used me as reason why they broke up...that spread (again) to my former village. I was mad and wanted to punch that lady for creating such rumors...anyway, I told myself why wud I go down to her level? I just let the smoke disappear without doing anything on my part....few months after again, this guy married a pinay who was a former close friend of that former lady friend. My reason why I keep distance with fil. community in my area, I`m fed up of being talk of the town Sometimes better a distant friend than just nearby
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9/15/2012 10:29 am |
Bebs, Agree completely on this one. No one ever plans for the wrong things to happen to them. Destiny or fate stops you in its track. Like they say in the movie "one one ever plans to be a mistress". It happens. At the end you chosse always to do the right thing. Most of all try not to hurt anyone in the process... Happy weekend but in every rule there is always an exception sometimes there are people who deliberately mess up other lives simply because they can only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 6:20 pm |
It's one of the reasons why I read your blog for novel style of writing. I like the suspense, twist and turns and at times, surprising when you reveal yourself at the end of the story in your other blogs. Ate B haven't experienced any accusation from either side yet.    within each one of us, and let it begin with me (and each one of us)..one breath at a time.
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9/15/2012 10:36 pm |
Oh yes, I got an experience with this one...2 times actually The first one, a german guy married to a pinay friend. One time, my friend invited me to her house but since she was still in shower room, her hubby entertained me. He let me in inside the house while waiting, usap kami bla bla...was just a casual talk for me. After few days, got already mail in my "prenster" account, all praises from him, not once but several times then later giving his cp number,but didn`t take note of it. Anyway, I answered him once but direct, I told him straight than I take his friendship but together with my friend, not as individual. Well, he realized that was not good and he later vent to me, that their marriage was on the rocks and he found me exactly opposite of his wife My failure: I told to my friend`s cousin who is living next to my village, who has no idea about social networking that time. In turn she told to their common friend and this common friend ( dunno her personally other than her name) later told to my friend that we were exchanging emails in yahu and chatting and I am flirting to her hubby,(never was the case)...so you can imagine how that information spread among the community how about common acquaintances? and the wife itself? did she confront you? are you still in touch with this family? were you still married that time? i had a very young beautiful then 22 year old friend cristina (pity she died just few months after arriving here. internal hemorrhage-blood clot according to the autopsy. there was a heisa about the manner the way she died. it took 3 weeks before the belgian police released her body and when i visited her in the morgue, she's nothing but unrecognizeable. they suspected her husband of foul play. it turned out she was 2 months pregnant) jean pierre (the husband) showed up at my door with bunch of roses and invitation to dinner few weeks after her funeral (i was separated that time from my ex) which i arranged including letting her parents come here. it turned out that cristina was the only daughter and marry a foreigner so she can pay back her parents for sending her to college. jean pierre offered a huge amount to the parents which they wanted to refuse but i made them take it because i told them their daughter is dead anyway and philippine embassy was keeping quiet and not doing anything. if they don't accept the money, cristina's death is all for nothing. i did some background check up and it turned out that jean pierre had few failed relationship already before marrying cristina. she was his 5th wife. only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 10:43 pm |
The second one, another pinay who has turkish bf was fond of me. I felt already when she introduced him to me the first time. Well, in fairness he`s very helpful too as he knows many things about cars and kitchen things and he helps not only me but all our friends, without expecting in return... but later calling, texting and/or messaging in efby. First of all, he`s not my type, he`s a friend`s bf, and I`m not interested to make my life more complicated But jealousy sucks, not long enough I found out that they broke up and this lady pinay friend used me as reason why they broke up...that spread (again) to my former village. I was mad and wanted to punch that lady for creating such rumors...anyway, I told myself why wud I go down to her level? I just let the smoke disappear without doing anything on my part....few months after again, this guy married a pinay who was a former close friend of that former lady friend. My reason why I keep distance with fil. community in my area, I`m fed up of being talk of the town Sometimes better a distant friend than just nearby i have no filipina close friends and i am not part of any filipino communitiy here hell, i don't even have contact with anyone i used to socialize among them for 13 years but i don't like the way they handling things too materialistic and too shallow (this is my personal experience only and nowhere generalizing nothing) they spend so much time trying to outdo each other and the gossips... i thought they left already that kind of crab mentality back home we have nothing in common in order to belong i have to be one of them and that's for me is a very high price to pay only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 10:44 pm |
of course  you're so perceptive and have a memory of an elephant only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 10:48 pm |
i assumed you never hear the other side of the story since you said it is from the man's point of view smells fishy don't you think so?  seems there are lots of holes in the theory but then again like you said, reality is stranger than fiction and knowing how martyr our women there back home could be... only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 10:50 pm |
same here jean i would be proud if women flirt with my husband as long as it is not the other way around because that will be a totally very, very different matter  only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 11:02 pm |
we all have choices in life if we go against what is seen as the norm, we have to be ready to bear the consequences of our action where she is right now? still alone? how her environment had reacted regarding the matter? i know that in our country, men are allowed almost anything whatever it is they do are tolerated and accepted by the society hence the popularity of the bar scenes but oh wee if the women do the same... even with separation cases there, automatically the women are the ones to blame even if it is the men who had given them reasons if a man is unfaithful, well... it's nothing but normal he is a man but if a woman had an extramarital affair, then she's a hoe i don't care much about that sort double standard what's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 11:03 pm |
sometimes he can be obnoxious  only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 11:04 pm |
really nothing to confess here tink  only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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9/15/2012 11:15 pm |
ah, maybe she just holding on to her failed marriage to spite her huband if i were her i will get everything i could get from this unfaithful lying cheating buzztard of a man i will say to him okay i'll sign the papers in return of this and that why intelligent women are mostly clueless when it comes to l'amour reminds me of a woman i once talked to in a plane she works in saudi she have met a guy there they are both married and have a family back in pinas they started an affair and out the union came a baby boy and they live together as husband and wife then their contracts ended and they have to go back home the problem is what they gonna to do with the baby? no one knows about the kid? sad really only dead fish go with the flow ~ JolieLaide
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