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WHY DOES LOVE FADE? Many movies, books, and popular songs paint an unrealistic portrait of love. During courtship, a man and a woman may feel that they are expecting a dream come true. But after a few years of marriage, they conclude that truly they must have been dreaming because the storybook romance they were expecting had turned into nightmare. Of course, it is only natural to expect love, attention and support from each other, yet even these wishes may go unfulfilled if one or both of the couple feel that they are with the wrong partner. Incompatibility is another reason why love fades. Most people enter marriage with major differences in habits and attitudes, and many couples do not know how to reconcile these differences. Upon realizing that they are not right for each other and that they can no longer accept each other's mistakes and inperfections, they regret their decision to get married. Every day spent together becomes marked with bitterness and resentment. In most cases, it does not take long for a married couple to discover that they are not as compatible as they seemed to be during their courtship. However, sometimes each partner may turn out to be hiding an unpleasant character trait that only surfaces later on in the marriage. In any relationship, disagreements are inevitable. Husband and wife feel free to voice out their complaints to each other. But too often in the heat of anger complaints are expressed in a destructive fashion, as an attack on the spouse's character. Conversation becomes a battleground where words are weapons instead of tools of communication. Partners say things that threaten the very lifeblood of their marriage. After an exchange of harsh words, both may feel unwanted and hurt, If such a situation goes on, love eventually goes away and apathy sets in. It has been said that the true opposite of love is not hate but indifference. Indeed, indifference can be as destructive to any relationship as hostility. The greatest cause of broken marriages is the strong belief of both partners that things cannot get better. Once they start thinking that their marriage is hopeless, they will lose the motivation to revive their love and rebuild the foundations of their relationship. by: Jenny King |
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11/16/2008 9:02 am |
so, true of marriages...fairy tale expectations. And real life is not fairy tale. It's finding a solution to every problem. And it theirs no answer every thing tumbles down...divorce time [I God is pure love...
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it's a myth when people say 'live happilly thereafter"...relationship is a fifty fifty compromise...love fades away due to lack of enhancement and creativity among partners...just a thought...
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Gots to keep da fire burning and communications....  just my 2 cents...  TReAt oTHerS LiKe YoU wAnT tO BE TReAteD !!!
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11/17/2008 11:21 pm |
communications, understanding, respect, trust and honesty plus unconditionaly love equals life time marriage IamALwaYs Hapi,kNowiNgDAt iAmEasilyPLeaSEd
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