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ACCOMMODATION IN MARRIAGE The transition of my life from a carefree and strike anywhere single to a budding working housewife and student posted some troubles that sometimes require me to slow down and remind myself of my status. There are things (infact a lot of them) that I can not still digest and I am still trying to digest in order to integrate them in my whole system. Often, critical thinking does and doesnt apply at all. In most cases, I end up using item analysis in order to dissect each issue. The process is mindblowing but working so far. My process of crossexamination and dissection of things is not that really complicated. I consider the basic information that makes my husband and I define our identity in both our personal and professional fields. I go through our data and apply comparison and contrast for better comprehension. Here are some tangible data that I always look into.. My husband is almost twice my age with almost 4 decades of experience in his expertise. Have been travelling around the world who had started his career from the lowest and descended to the top position. Beenn married once, was divorced when he was my age, raised his only , sent him to a medical school and remain as his 's bestfriend until now. Educationally, he got his shouting Ph.D at the end of his name.Lastly, he negotiates before doing things. What about me? (hehehehe). I am not young anymore and compared to him my expertise is just his apprenticeship. Educationally, I am still killing myself in order to pass all the examinations required by the state and the university where I am in now. I work closely with students and have travelled a quarter (at least) of the places my husband had been into. Never been married (except now) but had sent my bros and sisters to various universities in order to complete their education as well. I am still working for that Ph.D (craziness!!)in an extremely different field. Lastly, I do things the way I want them to be. Where is now our point of reconciliation? I am free willing he is negotiating so we end up with accommodating. We accommodate each others caprices, wants and beliefs. We discuss instead of argue and respect each others individuality. I continue to chase the sparkling stars of my career while he enjoys his retirement with his fishing partners. I read my books and papers while he enjoys his walk with our two dogs. I am up early during the day while he is still preparing to start his sleep. I snore at night while he enjoys his syfy and pleasure reading. He refuses to get into the car if I drive while I love sleeping confidently if he is on the wheel.We are a couple made up of remarkable diversity but we enjoy most of our times. We have ups and downs and our life in not made from heaven existence.There are aspects that my husband can not function anymore but it never been our problem.We consume our marriage based on what are the available resources that we can provide to the best of our capacities. The spirit of accommdation works very good with each other. I am happy that I have my husband as my critic, mentor, bestfriend, partner and guide. I might not have a perfect marriage ( thats impossible)but I am contented and satisfied with what I have. I always respect the sanctity and sacredness of the decision and commitment I made when I signed my marriage contract. Anyway....the only thing I can not accommodate in our marriage is claning the mess of our dogs and cats....my answer is always: NO WAY!!! Everytime, I see the discontented face of my hubby while holding the broom and the dustpan...I smile and tell myself that I am still the BOSS...hahahahahaha |
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going into a relationship such as marriage is a 50-50 compromise to make it work... 50-50 is good but why not try 100-100 to make it better?
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Marriage is the toughest job besides raising kids. A lot of love and patience to overcome all the insurmountable problems that come up. Love is the key to keep going... thank you
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The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds - they mature slowly. Thank you sis.
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Its fun to do that sometimes...hehehehehe
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The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds - they mature slowly.
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11/7/2009 9:01 am |
Marriage is the toughest job besides raising kids. A lot of love and patience to overcome all the insurmountable problems that come up. Love is the key to keep going...
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going into a relationship such as marriage is a 50-50 compromise to make it work...
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