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imzadi_ 113F
342 posts
8/14/2007 6:33 am
On Schizos: To Tell or Not To Tell


it is a well-known fact that a lot of people have several handles at fff ... for a multitude of reasons --- mostly, as backup handles bec there are a lot of vindictive people who would make fff ban you by making up allegations.

at any rate, some would tell others who they are and/or what their regular handle is when they are using a diff handle. those people do not bother me.

what bothers me are those who have different handles, pretend to be different people in each of their handles, and, worse, pretend to be of a different gender in some handles.

do you think those type of schizophrenics/multiple personalities chatters should be exposed to prevent them from fooling other chatters?


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tell other chatters
tell only your acquaintances and friends
tell only your friends
don't tell anybody




bebong2005 56F
9764 posts
8/14/2007 8:07 am

Don't tell anyone. Leave them to their own devices. Just be sure you cannot fooled by them because....you know they are fake anyway.

By being tale-tell, you would not only create enemies therefore making your cyber life close to unbearable;you will gain nothing by doing that also.

Just leave them and do your own business. It's easier that way.

~ Jolielaide


imzadi_ 113F

8/14/2007 9:44 am

    Quoting bebong2005:
    Don't tell anyone. Leave them to their own devices. Just be sure you cannot fooled by them because....you know they are fake anyway.

    By being tale-tell, you would not only create enemies therefore making your cyber life close to unbearable;you will gain nothing by doing that also.

    Just leave them and do your own business. It's easier that way.

let me get his straight ....

so it is morally okay to allow others to be fooled ... as long as you look out for #1?




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bebong2005 56F
9764 posts
8/14/2007 12:10 pm

It's not OK but things like this occured countless times. If i gonna try to save morally unjust cases each day...

But then again, everyone has choices. This is mine. There was a time that i want to save the world (when i was young and idealistic) till i found out that it's a lost cause.

~ Jolielaide


Big_Red_Dog 58M

8/14/2007 1:06 pm

I say expose em for what they are, coz we both know that (for the most part) they are just there to cause hate an discontent among the other chatters Not Bling Owner


Angel_eyes02 59F

8/14/2007 9:17 pm

nobody tells me, but i start smelling something on my own ways who's who by reading post blogs and some responses. only in this area because i dont go for chatting.

this is my observation of people here who fake themselves and why;
- to gain more comments and responses on blogs,
- can easily name and target their enemies even it is their first or second time posts.


Life begins when my long search ends


Angel_eyes02 59F

8/14/2007 9:33 pm

I told my friends what i observed.

Life begins when my long search ends


TheEnigma 63M

8/15/2007 2:09 pm

Theres no such thing as a "fake" ?
If you make a handle and use it then its you isnt it?
Just cause it wasnt the first one u used or someone else thinks of you as another handle doenst make it fake!
Its a dating/chat site.... handles/profiles and even some people are not always what you think they are

live with it

cookie anyone?


Big_Red_Dog 58M

8/15/2007 5:46 pm

    Quoting TheEnigma:
    Theres no such thing as a "fake" ?
    If you make a handle and use it then its you isnt it?
    Just cause it wasnt the first one u used or someone else thinks of you as another handle doenst make it fake!
    Its a dating/chat site.... handles/profiles and even some people are not always what you think they are

    live with it

    cookie anyone?
Phil, there's a bit if difference between the fake she is talking about and the fake you are talking about. It's one thing to have a different handle and let people know it's still you, but to have a different handle to purposely fool people, or to mak it for just evil is what she is talking about. I think you know the ones that come to mind. It was actually directed at certain people to see if they would respond, but obviously, they are too full of theirselves to realize it's about them . To make a long story short, there are a couple of people that will delete our posts if we put them on our blog, so we decided to put our thoughts on our own blog. Any questions...just ask...I'm more than happy to accomodate those answers


fantasiamore1013 72F

8/15/2007 7:05 pm

wonder if you believe in co-existence? for as long as no harm is done to you...then let them be! otherwise be bugged forever, that's the general experience in this site....futile to do something about them, if you must know...it's a cycle that keeps coming...just be wary all of the time for yourself...am telling you, one can't make a difference, even many can't do it, either...this site condones it!

as i love you i love life


imzadi_ 113F

8/16/2007 3:10 am

    Quoting fantasiamore1013:
    wonder if you believe in co-existence? for as long as no harm is done to you...then let them be! otherwise be bugged forever, that's the general experience in this site....futile to do something about them, if you must know...it's a cycle that keeps coming...just be wary all of the time for yourself...am telling you, one can't make a difference, even many can't do it, either...this site condones it!

true ... coexistence is a beautiful thing. but, as you've said, "for as long as no harm is done to you."

but what about those chatters who clone your handle and pretend to be you? some clones even go to the extent of paging others in private and soliciting them for money ... and people are left with the impression that it was you who solicited them.

and what about those multiple-handled people who pretend to be someone else .... like the 50+ guy who pretended to be 27 and got engaged to a girl who thought he was really 27?

should one really leave such people unexposed?


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fantasiamore1013 72F

8/16/2007 6:00 am

online datings has no guarantees, we all know...that is why there should always be precautions, whenever...

on the question of cloning and using your handle, fraud would have a slightest possibility....i believe it is possible ONLY if the person being spoken to has never encountered you before....if the person spoken to knows you already, he would easily be alerted on the way you converse or do your emails, there would always be a difference to detect, if there is another person in your cloned handle..i wonder how other persons can assume your handle when there is the security of the password? although there are instances of program glitch, this is not always the case, am sure.

as i love you i love life


imzadi_ 113F

8/16/2007 8:07 am

    Quoting fantasiamore1013:
    online datings has no guarantees, we all know...that is why there should always be precautions, whenever...

    on the question of cloning and using your handle, fraud would have a slightest possibility....i believe it is possible ONLY if the person being spoken to has never encountered you before....if the person spoken to knows you already, he would easily be alerted on the way you converse or do your emails, there would always be a difference to detect, if there is another person in your cloned handle..i wonder how other persons can assume your handle when there is the security of the password? although there are instances of program glitch, this is not always the case, am sure.

what is meant by cloning is not hacking into your account. cloning a handle is when somebody creates a similar handle to yours. for example, fantasiamoore1013 or fantasiamorel0l3. notice that fantasiamorel0l3 is very similar to your original fantasiamore1013. yours uses the number one (1) while the clone handle uses the lowercase of the letter L (l).

i'm guessing that you have not encountered a lot of the schizos and psychos at fff .... or, at least, not that you were aware of. count that as a blessing.


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fantasiamore1013 72F

8/16/2007 2:43 pm

if you only knew...years back here, i have had that crusade you are having now...but i will not go into it, i can only describe the venture as very "futile"...noticed, i mentioned co-existence...

thank your for the cloning explanation, was thinking a sharper person could identify the real from that of a clone...so no entanglements somehow.

as i love you i love life


imzadi_ 113F

8/16/2007 3:47 pm

    Quoting fantasiamore1013:
    if you only knew...years back here, i have had that crusade you are having now...but i will not go into it, i can only describe the venture as very "futile"...noticed, i mentioned co-existence...

    thank your for the cloning explanation, was thinking a sharper person could identify the real from that of a clone...so no entanglements somehow.

a sharper person ... or people who really know you ... or both. unfortunately (or fortunately), i choose to chat privately with only a few people. hence, only a few really know me. most think that my clones are also me.

i have been harassed by schizos the very day i joined fff about 4-5 years ago ... and that continues to this day. a few months after i joined, clone handles started appearing ... owned by different people.

as for the "crusade", it might indeed be futile. but what can i say? ... no matter how much i try, i can't just shrug off the moral obligation i feel.


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ravein3___ 113M
162 posts
8/17/2007 1:51 am

Resistance is futile u will b assimilated u will b borg
As i have said b4 there is no fool like an old fool
Also u can tell people but u cant make em listen
Bit like knowledge people are mostly taught the same things in skools so why are there stupid people coz they dont listen


wot will b will be


imzadi_ 113F

8/19/2007 3:59 pm

    Quoting  :


so what did you end up voting? ... bahala na si batman? ...


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a_respectflwish 53M
501 posts
10/14/2007 10:58 pm

i had personal experience with a multiple handle person using them to get to you and undermining something that they themself started. trying to get out of a relationship that was coming to a meeting that she never wanted. and then creating blogs to make herself look good and me a liar that is strange

to think of life as a journey of your actions and a result of you reactions


imzadi_ 113F

10/16/2007 5:02 am

    Quoting a_respectflwish:
    i had personal experience with a multiple handle person using them to get to you and undermining something that they themself started. trying to get out of a relationship that was coming to a meeting that she never wanted. and then creating blogs to make herself look good and me a liar that is strange

such an experience is not uncommon online.

but, the way i see it, the one who supposedly got "played" ended ahead for so many reasons. the most important of which is that you found out how fake the other person is. can you imagine how much worse it could have been if the other's charade has gone undetected? you could have gone to the next, more serious, level of the relationship ... could have even married the person ... only to find out that the person is not who s/he said s/he is . now, that would have been a serious disaster.

also, the other person lost out in the dating scene. sooner or later, you'll move on and find somebody as sincere and as into the relationship as you are (if not more). the player, on the other hand, will still be playing ... with someone ... temporarily ... if not with several different people ... but, still, temporarily .... and, in the end, still be alone ... like the kid who gets left in the playground after all the other kids have gone home ... bec s/he has no warm, loving hearth to go home to.


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